JFC, has anyone actually seen the Ashley Madison list? Anyone? Hit "omg" if you've actually laid eyes on it. You have to look for it. As far as people not actually cheating, they went as far as paying to be members. It's not like they happened upon a person they had feelings for. It's for scumbags who are looking for strange. To be found out, you have to be sought out. I'm married. I don't know where my DH is every second of the day. I'm not running to check the list. It's not like my children will be watching TV and see Daddy's name flash across the screen. So, if people don't want to know, they don't have to look at it, right?