No BS, don't assume. After being married for years, and you leave your spouse...you don't really know how to put yourself out there. All I did was google dating sites, Ashley Madison came up, I had never heard of it before. I didn't read everything on the page (and lets face it, no one reads everything when joining sites, so don't lie and say you do)...I saw that it allowed/promoted affairs, but also had singles on there too. I gave it a shot, I didn't meet anyone, I didn't find any single guys I liked as there wasn't very many on there in my area, I stopped logging in after 3 months but I had only checked it maybe once a week (just like the other 2 dating sites I was on). I haven't thought about it since, until all this hacker stuff came up.