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Posted by: anonymous
2019-03-26 02:19:34
ID: 59619
In response to a confession. Thanks for the reply. I asked because my youngest daughter will be 12 in May. I have no problem leaving her home with her older sister (14 and a half). But the older one has an opportunity to work this summer, which means she won't be home with her sister. Her dad will be here in the morning, I will will be home in the afternoon, but it means the 12 year old would be by herself for about 5 hours a day, 3 days a week, for 5 weeks. I'm torn. I don't know if I should let her stay by herself or try to make other arrangements. There is no law in my state regarding this. Thoughts?
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-03-24 18:21:50
ID: 59572
When you can do it legally - leave kids at home - varies by state. In my state I think it’s 12. We have a responsible “only” and probably started leaving him for a couple hours during the day (grocery shopping) at age 10. And ling periods at 11 - often if we were going out, we’d make sure he had dinner first and kinda set him up. We still used babysitters too for safety. So, to answer your qu. 11, I’d say. And at 12/13 we actually left him overnight up to 2 nights (let friends know, made plan, prepped meals etc.) when work trips coincided badly. He slept over sometimes but I think 2 times he was alone.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-03-23 23:26:31
ID: 59591
I think there are two types of moms: The ones who can't wait for their kids to grow up and leave and the ones who want their kids to stay babies forever. DH and I both got parents who wanted us gone ASAP and my sister's MIL never wanted her kids to grow up. Her MIL is a lot more involved in her life and her kids' lives. My parents and ILs barely ever even call us. I wonder what it would be like sometimes to have parents who never wanted me to leave.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-03-23 23:10:23
ID: 59584
My friend has baby fever. She is newly married and has bipolar disorder. She is talking about how great having a baby will be even though she can barely take care of the two dogs she adopted. She claims her DH will do "most of the day to day stuff when I'm depressed". That won't set her up for him being resentful or anything. I think she's delusional about what motherhood will be like, but hey, whatever. I can't live her life for her.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-03-22 16:09:36
ID: 59579
It's looking more and more like my girl (DD20) is going to be moving across the whole damn country for a job this spring. She's never been away from home like this, and I'm going to miss her so bad! But wow, this is going to be an AMAZING experience for her, working in one of the most beautiful places ever. Meeting new people, going to a new place FAR from home all on her own. I'm really proud of her for working so hard to set all this up. It hasn't been easy. She's in the final stages of arranging everything. Things could still go sideways, but it's looking like it's going to happen. I'm so happy for her! And scared and nervous too!
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-03-22 12:01:07
ID: 59578
My sister's MIL has convinced her daughters that is it is okay and normal for the grandma to be called momma. My sister's children don't call their grandma momma but their cousins do. When my sister mentions that is it odd, her sister-in-laws defend it and say it is okay because their children call them mommie and their grandma momma. They truly believe there is a huge difference. The grandma takes over all control of the children and the parents have no say about anything concerning their own children. The MIL has disowned her children in the past because they don't get permission to do things even though they are adults. All her kids pay her bills and give her spending money as well. My sister put a stop to it when her and BIL got married but he still tries to sneak and pay for things. MIL and FIL work but MIL overspends and tells her children it is their job to provide for her. She broke her children at a young age and they are still in the fog when it comes to her messed up ways.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-03-21 05:35:43
ID: 59561
When I started my custody battle way back when, I had terrible attorneys. So then someone recommended another and I switched to her. WOW I can't even tell you how outstanding she was. Precise, understanding, compassionate and always available. She also allowed me to make payments after my savings/retirement were exhausted. Took 10 years to pay it all off. Recently I decided to clean up my email accounts and in the one I'd used for her, I found several in spam where she was trying to reach me through LinkedIn. I haven't used LI since 2011. We haven't been in court since 07 and last we spoke, through email, was 2013. Anyway I just looked her up and found out that she passed away last summer. I feel terrible. My phone number changed, maybe she'd lost my email address and was trying to reach me through LI? I'm not on any other social media. :(
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-03-20 03:30:18
ID: 59557
OMG You guys DD20 is literally losing her shit right now because she's so excited her new leggings were just delivered and she can look extra cute when she goes to the gym on her school's campus.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-03-19 03:03:40
ID: 59552
How old were your kids when you left them home alone? I don't mean for a few minutes while you did something quick, but how old were they when you left them home alone for several hours?
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-03-19 03:01:54
ID: 59551
I was at the grocery store yesterday and there was a woman and her about 2 year old daughter, maybe 3, sitting in the art. The little girl was obese. Not a little chubby like a lot of toddlers, but very overweight. The mom was picking out several donuts while talking to her daughter. She was asking, "Which one do you wan first?" implying that she was going to have more than one. She gave the girl one of them while she was there. Sorry, but I think this is actually abusive. And I am someone who has had weight issues for my entire life. Ironically, mom was quite slim, very well-dressed, made-up, etc. She obviously placed importance on her appearance.
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