I'm here to tell you it gets better. I remember when my friends told me it would get better, but I didn't believe them - and here we are. My ex (and his wife) constantly put me down to ds. Ds would innocently repeat the things they said, things like I was poor because I rented and how much more he could have and do if he lived there, and also lying to him about things that I couldn't defend without speaking negatively about them. This went on from ages 4-13. Yes, a LONG time. Many tears and sleepless nights afraid that one day ds would say he was going there to live. And then one day, ds came to realize that they were full of shit. He hates his SM. He loves his dad because he's his dad, but ds said he's moving to my home state across the country for college (dad wants him to stay here). Hang in there.