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Posted by: anonymous
2017-07-23 22:56:36
ID: 49280
In response to a confession. The other one he used a lot was "It's not abuse if you deserve to be yelled at. Not all yelling is abuse". Well, it is if you make someone feel belittled and like a child when they are your equal. He also started yelling at our marriage counselor because she told him he was being abusive to me (and to her, during the session). He just couldn't get it through his head that he's quite often just a huge asshole.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-07-23 22:55:46
ID: 49278
In response to a confession. Would it resonate less on the relationships board where it belongs princess?
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-07-23 18:20:37
ID: 49268
In response to a confession. Omg my ex used to say stuff like that to me. "You just don't understand because your family is so fake. At least we're upfront with each other in my family." No, asshole. You grew up with abusive parents who taught you that abuse is normal. And he was so superficially charming; no one believed me when I left him. I sincerely believe he would have killed me. I'm glad we're talking about abuse. I think, unfortunately, many of us have a lot to add to the conversation.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-07-23 17:32:53
ID: 49267
The worst part of being with my ex-husband was the gaslighting. He's been out of my life for almost ten years. I still question my sanity.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-07-23 17:28:42
ID: 49274
In response to a confession. What a sweetheart, you are. Sorry we're boring you with our "dramatic crap" experiences of being abused. Consider yourself lucky that you can look the other way so easily. Clearly, this discussion resonates with a lot of us here.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-07-23 16:11:19
ID: 49273
In response to a confession. Wow, that's exactly--almost word for word--what my DH said to me when I accused him of being emotionally and verbally abusive to me. Only he said something like "Well, your dad just wasn't a yeller. Sometimes you have to get yelled at to get stuff through your head". Super shitty thing to say to someone and it does NOT justify being a loudmouthed asshole.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-07-23 04:56:22
ID: 49253
My fave comment from my abuser is "you came from a quiet family and you're just not used to it." IT referred to his daily rages over nothing, constant swearing, calling me filthy names, and slamming out of the house to get drunker at a bar.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-07-23 04:22:30
ID: 49252
What to leave at the door when you get into a relationship with any man - "I deserved it." Abusers love that attitude and go to great lengths to promote it.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-07-22 21:26:12
ID: 49258
In response to a confession. I think if you can't even go enjoy a pedicure or a quick cup of coffee that's more of an issue with you. Plenty of responsible, loving parents like to have a break, whether it's shopping or a movie, etc. Nothing wrong with a few hours to yourself every now and then.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-07-22 20:24:36
ID: 49256
In response to a confession. Why can't you ride your high horse to the relationships board? That's where all this dramatic crap belongs.
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