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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-19 11:41:21
ID: 52747
I know moms with my sister being one of them that do things in their family that I think they intentionally do to make things harder so they can either complain or feel needed by their children. My sister keeps complaining she exhausted and not getting any sleep because she has moved all three children into bed with her and her DH because the kids rooms are colder than hers by 3 degrees. I suggested she get a small heater to put in their shared room and she wont' do it. There are many other things she does that make her life harder than it needs to be. Many women out there do these things so they can feel like they are a better mom because they are putting up with the struggle. You can be a great mom without forcing yourself through unnecessary struggles. Like the women who continue to do everything in their home for their kids and DH but won't allow them to do anything themselves and turn around and complain how exhausting motherhood is. Don't burden yourself to prove your worth.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-19 06:08:42
ID: 52735
I hung out with one of my bff's daughters last night. She's 19 and home from college and we like to get together. Her mom is an alcoholic and my husband and daughter are alcoholics. We went to dinner and I told her I was going to an Al-Anon meeting. She wanted to come. There were only 4 of us there. I FINALLY shared my story. It was very freeing. She came over after and we had coffee and chatted. We're going to another meeting on Friday. I'm so thankful she comes to me when she's feeling frustrated with her mom. I love our relationship.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-18 23:47:10
ID: 52740
In response to a confession. i don't have any kids but i used to work in retail and saw this kind of disparity all the time. i remember once when a couple with three young kids came in. they had twin boys and one girl. the girl looked to be about 5 years old and the boys around 6 or 7. the boys were running all over the place, fighting, screaming and disrupting other customers while the parents did nothing. all the while the little girl quietly stood by the parents side. the little girl wandered off a few feet away to go look at some jewelry and the parents scolded her for touching things and not standing still. they continued to ignore their boys. i unfortunately think it's true that a lot of parents (whether they realize it or not) coddle their sons and raise their daughters.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-18 21:54:56
ID: 52737
I am so tired of Boy Moms excusing away their kids' bad behavior. It's not OK. I have boys. I know what it's like. I also know that just like their sister, they benefit to limits and rules. Things like farting on their brother, peeing on the floor, hitting, running full speed through the house and jumping all over the furniture, making messes, yada, yada, are NOT ok. They're not OK if your a boy, a girl, a kid, or an adult. If you just throw your hands up in the air and say, "What can I do? They're just boys," you are doing everyone a disservice, most of all them. It is NOT ok to excuse bad behavior just because of someone's gender. Do my boys sometimes miss the toilet? Yep. And from the minute they were able to know better, they started cleaning it up themselves. Same with any other mess they make. Hit their brother, or anyone else for that matter, there are consequences. Real consequences not just an exasperated, "Quit it." Step up, boy parents, and do your job.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-18 13:08:23
ID: 52730
In response to a confession. It helps if you have a spouse that also supports that decision. Mine wants clean furniture and floors, but refuses to entertain the thought of eating anywhere but in front of the tv. As a result, my floors are constantly sticky and the ($30) hated couch is a complete disaster no matter how hard I try.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-17 10:32:16
ID: 52717
When friends and family ask me how I keep my living room furniture and rug looking so nice and not stained with kids, I tell them there is no eating or drinking in the living room. All food and drinks remain the in the kitchen/dining area. They look at me like I am a crazy person with two heads. They can't understand this is an actual concept. I had someone ask me why I would have such a strict rule. Uhh...because i don't want dirty, stained and smelly furniture. My family doesn't feel it is strict and they aren't bothered by it because it has never been a thing to eat outside of the kitchen area. I hate going to someone's house and sitting on a couch that is full of who knows what and smells from on the food crumbs and spills.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-14 23:21:27
ID: 52681
Ok, so I don't have kids, but this really rubbed me the wrong way: A baby--maybe 3 or 4 months old? Very tiny--was propped in the cart in the toddler seat, but her legs were kind of sticking out funny and she couldn't hold herself up enough and was sort of leaning over the back and she looked like she was going to fall into the cart at any second. Like...I get that people are lazy or whatever, but that baby should have been in a car seat or something way more supportive than just a toddler seat in a shopping cart.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-14 10:38:25
ID: 52673
In response to a confession. Some people just don't stay in places they aren't completely happy in. For some it is natural to stay stationary and others it isn't. How ever, while it may be a struggle for the children at the moment it can benefit them later in life. They learn how to make friends faster and choose better friends because they learn how to weed out the bad ones quickly at an early age. They learn how to adapt to certain situations and environments better than their peers. They get immersed in different cultures and traditions even just moving a few states away. This tends to lead to adults who more open minded and empathetic. It isn't always the case but it can have its benefits though it may not be immediate.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-13 16:14:22
ID: 52655
Why do people move around so much for no reason? In the past year, DD13 has had 3 friends whose families have moved just because the wanted to try something new. Not for jobs, not for money, just because. In every case, the kids weren't really happy about it. But it was just something their family does every few years, so they just sort of accepted it. There's nothing they could do about it anyway. I felt so bad for them. As soon as they get settled and make some close friends, their parents uproot them. Like this age isn't hard enough that they have to start a new school every two years. I just don't get it.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-12 21:47:18
ID: 52638
My DS8 *looks* normal. In fact, he looks like a 12 year old because of his size. But he isn't normal. He has cerebral palsy. While it doesn't confine him to a wheelchair, it causes him to have impulse control problems. It causes him to have problems conveying his thoughts without raising his voice above the usual indoor voice standards. He can only fully use one hand, as the other is severely affected by CP. He is so smart, but his behavioral issues hold him back. Everyone, teachers, principal, people who know his medical history, they all expect him to behave like a normal kid. I want to scream at them that he's not normal! I want him to be able to be a kid, but I feel like I spend 99% of my time trying to warn him that he can't act however he wants. He can't be like other kids. He has to watch what he does, because people expect him to behave a certain way because of how he looks. I don't even know what to do anymore.
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