DD12 goes between my Ex & me, 5hrs away. She's with him for a month. I'm on her heels with schooling (online) so she's never behind. She's there a week & a half & hasn't done any work. They don't monitor her. I looked at her progress report that updates weekly. All of the work is due tomorrow for the quarter. Whatever isn't done gets a 0. DD had a solo sports lesson today. I would have skipped the lesson to finish her work, but her SM took her. SM & Ex go to bed at 930, DDs bedtime is 9. Here, I'd have her stay up later to get her work done, even if it meant I had to lose sleep too. They're not going to stay up to let her get her work finished. We have no court visitation order (he's been getting visits for 8 months after 8yrs of not seeing her by choice), I might not let her go back til summer vacation.