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Posted by: hanginin
2020-10-20 18:23:25
ID: 65719
So here's one for the record books. I just found out that my XMIL (my kids' grandma) who's son I've been divorced from for 20 years, as been telling a fabricated version of a story for the past .. 20 years I guess! When DS25 turned 3, she had a party for him at her house. At said party, she and I got into a fight (she is the world's most difficult person, she has histrionic personality disorder) and she picked up my son's Elmo cake and threw it at the wall. Of her own dining room. In front of her 3yo grandson who's birthday it was and who hadn't even had any of the cake yet. SO! After all these years of blissfully never seeing her, I just found out that she's been telling everyone, including my kids (and re-telling it over and over at every family gathering for the last 20 years ) that it was ME that threw the Elmo cake. Jesus. I just told my son not to argue with her about it, let her tell her story... just know.. I didn't do that. She did.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-10-19 22:08:35
ID: 65712
We went to an online information session today with the local college. They have a program for students with autism, like my son. The entire thing will be paid for because he qualifies for services through the State Rehabilitation Program, which supports students with disabilities with transition and employment. I think the program is going to be great for him. It has been kind of a hard road as an autism parent, but not as hard as I thought it would be when he was diagnosed. I'm so proud of him. He does need help with school, but he is responsible, polite, and genuinely kind. My kid is turning out okay!
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-10-19 01:57:13
ID: 65703
So, we bought my daughter a car today. She's turning 16. It's a new small, economical SUV. I broke down in tears on my way home. I grew up with a single dad. He was wonderful and hard working, but we were poor. Like put cardboard in your only pair of shoes to fill the holes poor. My first car was free b/c it was so bad they literally gave it away. Leaked everything, rust everywhere. I cried because I can't believe how far I've come. I would have never dreamed I'd be in a position to be able to do this. I feel like I made it. I really, really made it. After decades of poverty and working my ass off, I'm in a position to buy my daughter a new car. In cash. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think I'd be able to write a check that big. And she is such an amazing, terrific kid. She deserves this. I'm just so glad I can give it to her. I have a nice house and other things, but this just hit me differently.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-10-18 00:21:15
ID: 65697
Our state is experiencing record numbers of COVID cases right now. And yet, I saw a mom and dad with a brand new born baby at the grocery store. And they weren't wearing masks. And the baby was just....out in the open. And people were getting close to the baby and cooing at it, etc. Real smart parenting going on there....I would have understood if it was a single parent but one of them could have stayed home with the baby while the other one went to the store. That's what most of the sane people here are doing.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-10-07 04:36:22
ID: 65626
Months ago, WELL before the due date (and before COVID), I sent in the required paperwork and documentation to extend child support past age 19 (state law), since DS was living at home and attending college. When the support stopped, I called and they said they never received the papers, so I'd have to reopen the case. A couple weeks ago I ran into an acquaintance from years and years ago, who also has a DS of the same age. We got to talking, and she told me that the support office hadn't received her papers, either. She didn't have to reopen her case, though. See, HER ex noticed that the payments weren't coming out of his checks, and contacted support himself to ensure the payments continued. No such luck for me! My ex never even questioned it, just thought he lucked out I guess. Wait till he's served. He's going to flip out. But I'd like to know wtf is going on in that support office!!!
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-10-06 14:41:35
ID: 65610
I am sad because my son, DIL & DGD have moved. :( They used to live close by, like a ten minute drive. They live an hour and half away now, so I don't get to see DGD any time, I have to make arrangements ahead of time. And sometimes it doesn't work out, and I haven't seen her in almost three weeks. I haven't seen DS in even longer because he's working all the time. Freaking BOO! Also, my daughter lives in the same area so I hardly ever get to see her either. She's 21 and living her best life and not thinking about her mom much. Which is to be expected, but I still miss her. I miss all of them. Is this my life now? Nobody around but DH and the dogs, and I've never been so bored in my entire life.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-09-25 18:53:46
ID: 65532
In response to a confession. OP, don't feel bad about keeping the kids home! I'm doing the same, as are thousand and thousands of parents around the country. You're not scarring them or ruining their lives. I don't know how old your kids are, but if theyre old enough to have phones and computers then they're still in touch with others. And if they're young, they probably won't remember much anyway. Nothing wrong with keeping them safe!
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-09-24 18:00:11
ID: 65526
Every time I get comfortable, "are you sure you made the right decision?" No! Thanks for reminding me of my existential guilt from keeping the kids out of school and away from people for the last 6 months! Thank you. I forgot momentarily that I've probably ruined their lives by trying to keep them from catching COVID before there is a treatment or at least an understanding of the effects. Thanks. Going to go wallow in my guilt again.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-09-24 02:17:18
ID: 65520
My DD12 is just too smart for her own good. Her grades are crap, except math. But she thinks outside the box, her way of thinking and problem solving is genius. I'm tech savvy, she gets it from me, I figured out how to hack in my teens. During DDs classes, she was playing online instead of doing her work. So I went into the background and blocked her from being to access pretty much anything other than school stuff. In half a day she was able to figure out how to bypass it. She had 2 extra bypasses set up in case I was able to find one. I disabled them and blocked her from being able to reuse them, but it won't stop her from figuring out other ways. I work from home but I can't watch her the whole time. I check in on her but she always looks like she's doing school work. In a sense I'm proud, but very irritated. With all the stress she's putting me through with this, she better end up making good $$ hacking for the government or something.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-09-20 22:59:27
ID: 65498
Why do people decide to get pregnant when they know it's like, the worst possible timing ever? Spouse lost a job, rent just went up, they have no savings, and they just had to buy a different car, but yep...have another kid. That makes total sense.
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