My daughter is 23 and has never worn makeup or dyed her hair or made any real effort to change her natural appearance. She wants to look NICE, obviously, but she doesn't change herself. At all. Just basic grooming. And it occurred to me that the reason she can do this (while most women, including myself, can't accept themselves wholly like that).. is because she never learned to feel ugly without it. And that realization made me feel pretty good, as her mom.