You're totally right about that. But, I think it will all work out. I wanted to go dress shopping with future DIL, kind of because her mom died when she was young. I also really want to see what she'll pick. She's got really unique style. DH is annoyed that my XDH and his parents are going to come to our house for Thanksgiving (which is normal, I think), but he gets it. The main thing I really need to know is just how many people are going to be there. So I can plan the food. Which, TBH, I would be doing anyway for the holiday. Also, later, future DIL did call me and say maybe she would like me to be there when she dress shops. I just told her I will be there if she wants, but if not that's totally okay. Even though it did make me sad she wanted to do it alone, I didn't TELL her that! I mean, I'm not a monster!