We asked him to come live with us a year ago, and he said he doesn’t want to live with anyone. He’s capable of paying his bills and answering his phone....he just doesn’t care. I told him I’ll be at his place a week from today, and that he can go for a ride with DH while I clean his apartment and get his laundry done. He said the manager has said nobody is allowed in the building, and I told him that’s not true because I already asked. He kept us away for years before he lost his house and it’s not gonna happen again. He stopped his county-funded housekeeper in March because he think everyone has ‘it,’ and I know it’s a pig sty. So now I’m paying his bills, keeping him current with his responsibilities, and will be his housekeeper. Meanwhile, my brother hasn’t called him in three weeks, and when I question him, he gets defensive.