I grew up in an abusive household where my mom would tell me the reason why I took care.of my siblings,cooked and cleaned was because I would have a husband. Of course, let's ignore the fact she cheated on her in several times and never took care of her kids nor had a job for long. She said after slapping me several times that she hoped i would have kids so I would know what it meant to be a mom because then I would stop being hateful. She was right. Now I have three children who will never struggle like I did as a kid, who have security and love and I never go a day without making sure they are ok. I didn't lose that "hatefulness* because now as an adult I saw myself as a kid who knew exactly what was going on and knew the actions of my parents were wrong.I did learn from her, all what NOT to do.