Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-06 21:24:32
ID: 52549
Not knocking SAHMs, but I don't think I could handle it. Being alone with kids all day, having to do kid stuff with them, feed them, etc. Nope. Not for me. My sister couldn't handle it either. She couldn't wait to get back to work. I think some people do better with it than other people.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-05 23:28:25
ID: 52541
I would never be just a SAHM. Kids grow up. What are you doing to do the rest of your life? Or what if you get divorced? [I know this topic is a dead horse, but it's an important one to women. That's why I continue to approve these posts when submitted anonymous. - Admin]
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-05 16:19:52
ID: 52530
In response to a confession. Also, what about when the kids are grown? Not bashing SAHM, I did it myself for many years, but it's not a permanent gig. Plus the thought of having to rely on someone else financially for the rest of your life would make me nervous.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-05 12:50:15
ID: 52525
Being a sahp is awesome and I firmly believe that everyone should be able to do whatever they want with their lives. But, in the event that the bottom drops out, it's nice to have an education to fall back on to re-enter the workforce. Let's face it, this has historically been a big problem for women. Even if my daughter was adamant that she wanted to be a sahm, I'd still want her to get a two year technical degree of some kind, at the very least.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-04 19:42:39
ID: 52518
My grandparents had 5 girls and 1 boy. They paid for all 6 to go to college, financed 4 of the masters degrees, and paid for 1 med school. To be fair, my grandfather was a Dr, and made good money, but it was important that everyone have a degree. My parents had two boys and two girls. They paid my tuition. I straight up told my parents, I didn't want to go to college. I legitimately wanted to be a stay art home mom. My older brother has a degree, but won't even list it on his resume. He spends his life traveling the world and selling cigars. My older sister joined the military, and doesn't use her degree. Little bro died his sr. year. I got an engineering degree and worked at a job that paid for my masters. Current job, SAHM. I genuinely couldn't be happier. I don't regret the education as I'm a much more well rounded person, and I do specific volunteer work. But yeah, I'm pleased as punch that my job is to look after my little peeps.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-04 15:33:10
ID: 52508
In response to a confession. Yeah, it's ludicrous that people still apply those outdated gender roles to their kids. What's crazy is that my sister and I, after doing everything college related ourselves, went on to have successful careers. My brother, with his bachelor's degree, is a... wait for it... truck driver. Not to diss truck drivers, or anything. It's a good, stable job and he makes a lot of money; however, he isn't using the degree my parents paid for to the tune of $40,000.
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Posted by: hanginin
2018-01-04 14:26:42
ID: 52513
There were six kids in my family- three boys and three girls. My dad helped all three of my brothers with college, and none of us girls. When I graduated HS, I had a 3.95 GPA. Two out of three of my brothers barely graduated at all. But he helped all three of them figure out where to go to school, what to study, how to pay for it, EVERYTHING. Only one of them actually uses his degree. It was just how things were. It never even occurred to me how horrible this was until I was in my thirties, divorced, trying to raise two kids, go to college, and work full time. I made it, though. So to speak. My sisters, not so much. One died of a drug overdose, the other lives in a homeless shelter with a nearby methadone clinic. Halfway across the country. At least that's where she was living last I heard. I don't have contact with her. And Debt? LOL! I'd be long dead before I'd be able to pay back the student debt. So yeah, please don't do this to your kids. It's so wrong.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-03 20:38:12
ID: 52507
My best friend had the same kind of experience, #52482. Parents put the two sons through college, her and her sister were expected to get married and make babies. Her older sister did that, got married at 21 and had three children by the time she was 29. Then the marriage tanked and the sister ended up divorced while hubby carried on with his new girlfriend, she struggled to get her kids the things they needed. She finally got an aesthetician's lisence and is doing OK now. My friend waited tables for a long time, almost got married but caught him cheating and got out of the engagement. She started putting herself through college at 30. Took a long time to graduate because she had to work full time. Meanwhile, the brothers got to live the college lives on campus and started their adults lives free of student debt. I don't GET why parents would do this to their kids. Now my friend finally does have a good job but she had to pay off mounds of debt! Again, so unfair.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-03 04:05:37
ID: 52474
Going through a tough time with my four year old and my older sister just keeps saying "Wait until he's a teenager," (she has two teens). It's like I can't say anything without her reminding me that the teen years are SO much harder. I am tired of being invalidated and it's really not helpful.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-01-03 03:47:46
ID: 52482
The one thing I wish my parents had done differently is caring more about my college education. They just assumed I'd be a sahm, like my mom. My sister and I weren't encouraged, at all, to further our educations and had to do everything ourselves; SATs, visiting schools, financial aid, paying our loans. My brother's education was totally paid for by them, and they helped him from start to finish. Thanks, mom and dad, for expecting me to be a walking incubator and setting me up for failure. I'm not bitter...
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