Even though ds is 18, we still go by the court-ordered visitation schedule since in our state it's valid until age 19. It's just not as strict since he's an adult and can decide to leave his dad's early or whatever. So he graduated yesterday, and technically it's his dad's weekend. Since I had family flying in, I scheduled my vacation time to start today. I could have started it yesterday, but I wanted to be fair and give his dad & SM, and family who couldn't watch him graduate, time to see and celebrate with him on his special day. (Let me just say I have *never* been accommodated this way all these years; if a life event occurred on his dad's time I was SOL.) Ds just got home and is pissed. He made a point of rushing home to shower and get over there, and they did...NOTHING. I get that they have a family grad party at a later date, but seriously??? You couldn't take your son out to a nice dinner on Grad Night???