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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-23 04:58:00
ID: 60703
All this talk of hoarding and dumping and Swedish death cleaning inspired me. I went to Walmart today and spent $200 on storage tubs and organization things. When we moved three and a half years ago, we bought a house, rescued a dog and I started a new job, all in a 30-day period. I never really organized and there are things that never got unpacked and are still in the basement or stuffed in closets. This weekend, this house will be purged and organized if it's the last thing that I do.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-23 00:39:58
ID: 60700
My sister, brother, aunt, uncle and myself are planning a giant "haul-off" day for my dad's place next year. We are going to rent a dumpster and just get rid of as much crap as possible. My dad's house isn't filthy (yet) but the less stuff he has cluttering it up, the easier it will be to downsize later. He's only 62 so getting him to think about old age is hard for him. Why must old men be so damn stubborn?
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-21 17:10:36
ID: 60686
Owner of the auction house came to Dad’s today. It seems that what’s left of the furnishings he and my Mom worked so hard for will bring less than $3000 at auction. The tools and woodworking stuff should bring another couple thousand. He was interested in the fridge until he opened it. Spoiled food, mold, and the smell!! He’s only been gone from the house a week, and the fridge has been running. It’s a miracle that he hasn’t got food poisoning or died! The guy says he can sell Dad’s house, so we’ll see what he comes up with. Not holding my breath though.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-21 12:26:23
ID: 60678
Even though ds is 18, we still go by the court-ordered visitation schedule since in our state it's valid until age 19. It's just not as strict since he's an adult and can decide to leave his dad's early or whatever. So he graduated yesterday, and technically it's his dad's weekend. Since I had family flying in, I scheduled my vacation time to start today. I could have started it yesterday, but I wanted to be fair and give his dad & SM, and family who couldn't watch him graduate, time to see and celebrate with him on his special day. (Let me just say I have *never* been accommodated this way all these years; if a life event occurred on his dad's time I was SOL.) Ds just got home and is pissed. He made a point of rushing home to shower and get over there, and they did...NOTHING. I get that they have a family grad party at a later date, but seriously??? You couldn't take your son out to a nice dinner on Grad Night???
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-20 17:19:40
ID: 60677
In response to a confession. Went to Dad’s today. OMG! The place is filthy! DH and our two grandsons were there helping and I told Dad to pack only what he needs at the apartment and leave the rest. He said he needs to clean and I told him that ship sailed years ago. The house is going back to the reverse mortgage sharks, so who cares? I told him his apartment will look just like the house because he’s still hoarding. I actually started crying because I’m so done with this BS. I know he feels bad, but this all could have been avoided.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-20 01:18:55
ID: 60668
In response to a confession. Too bad your brother is so useless. A united front (you and him) would probably be helpful. I hope things get better.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-19 22:44:29
ID: 60664
In response to a confession. I’m not pandering to him. It’s just a very fine line kids have to walk with elderly parents. But I did call him this afternoon to tell him that he’s not going to take advantage of DH anymore by having him clean stuff out of his house for nine hours a day! DH is 65 years old and has enough to do around here. Anyway, Dad isn’t answering his phone...that’s what he does when he gets pissy with stuff I do or say. So tomorrow I’m going out to the house with DH and Dad and I are gonna have a talk. I’ve got stuff to say and he’s gonna listen. I’ve given up on plans to move permanently to Florida anytime soon because he appears unable to get by on his own, brother is as useless as tits on a bull, and I’m one more incident away from losing my freaking mind. Something has to happen SOON.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-19 21:27:05
ID: 60661
In response to a confession. Tell him that if you he won't allow you to help clean, he has X amount of time to do it himself or pay someone to do it, before you get the health department involved. Stop pandering to him. If he's got hoarder tendencies, he no longer has the right to do it himself.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-18 18:43:09
ID: 60650
Dad has been in his new place for four days and he has gone through ONE box. About 49 to go. When I called this morning and told him I was going to his house to help clean stuff out, he flat out said he doesn’t want me there. I asked why and he said because it’s a mess. I told him I believe he’s been living in squalor since Mom died and it’s time to move on. He said he doesn’t need me to help. Then I said I could go unpack boxes at his new place and he said he’ll do it in his own time and he doesn’t need my help anymore. I’m honoring his request, but I predict he’ll be evicted when the complex comes for its annual inspection in a year. Pissed and hurt at the same time.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-16 15:06:34
ID: 60625
Ya'll look up Swedish death cleaning. Those Swedes have a lot of shit figured out, man.
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