Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-16 13:37:49
ID: 60624
In response to a confession. I beg you to ask him to start purging now!! It’s so damned hard! I fear my dad’s apartment will look like his house did in six months or less. We left him at 8 pm Friday night and picked him up for dinner at 6 pm Saturday, and he hadn’t moved, or cleaned out, or even opened one box (they’re spread all over his apartment and in both closets). He said he spent the day enjoying his new TV (I got him cable, which he’d never had before, so I guess this is my fault. LOL), and taking naps. My DH was so traumatized by all the crap that he’s planned to start purging our garages and house this week. Silver lining, I guess.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-16 00:01:30
ID: 60613
I'm dreading having to move my dad into a smaller place. My mom's in assisted living and my dad still lives in the 4 bedroom house we had growing up. It's filled to the gills with crap and stuff he will never use. If he didn't owe more than it's currently worth, we would have him sell it but at this point he'd be selling it at a loss so of course he won't do it. I know how stubborn he is and it's going to suck.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-15 14:36:50
ID: 60606
In response to a confession. Yes, my DH should be nominated for sainthood! He has been so much help with everything. Sometime during the move my Dad gave him some tool that they’d been discussing. Then told him that his father-in-law had given it to him, and he wanted to pass it along to because he’s more son than son-in-law. Glad I wasn’t there to witness it because I’d be a mess. I’m crying now just thinking of the look on DH’s face while telling me.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-15 02:50:19
ID: 60600
I’m the OP with the ‘moving dad’ saga. DH and I took him to dinner tonight then to the grocery store. We were all exhausted, and kind of quiet. We got him home and I got a little emotional...he had just left the house he and my mom built together and I had been asking her to make the move with Dad because he misses her so much. So I went to use the bathroom before we left and when I closed the door a feather floated onto the floor at my feet. I have no idea how it happened, but I feel so much better knowing that Mom is with him.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-14 21:58:48
ID: 60598
In response to a confession. Dad is in his new place! He took way too much furniture, and instead of taking just what he needed to the apartment, he dumped drawers into garbage bags. It’s a freaking mess, but I got his bed made, fridge stocked, and cable and internet set up. He’s a happy guy, and I’m so tired that I want to cry. But it’s done and I survived it!! Brother got there just as the movers finished up. He asked if I wanted to go in on the movers’ bill and I said no thanks since we’ve already paid $490 for having his yard mowed. He wrote the check out and gave me a dirty look. And I just smiled.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-14 13:12:51
ID: 60591
Today’s the day! The moving company just called and said they’re on the way to his house (DH and Dad are already there). Glad they gave them the wrong address!! Dad’s only lived there 31 years, so.... Please send prayers, good vibes, good mojo, crossed fingers and toes that it all goes smoothly today.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-13 19:29:13
ID: 60578
Poster moving your dad. Sounds like your DH is a gem, and really involved with your Dad. That’s a wonderful support and humanism at its best. I hope you show him how valuable and amazing he’s being - sounds like he’s doing more than bro.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-13 16:30:38
ID: 60571
Day 2 of Dad living with us. He gets up at 3 am and makes toast and peanut butter (crumbs on the floor) and watches TV for an hour or so. He has hearing aids but forgot them, so we can hear him watching shoot ‘em up movies at the other end of the house. He wanted to do some online banking, but forgot his password. His log in ID is the chemical name for plutonium plus his brother’s date of birth, yet he can’t remember his password. DH is at Dad’s emptying his pantry (he had an unopened box of pancake mix that he wanted to pack...with an expiration date of 2012!!) and Dad’s at the bank. I’m home doing laundry trying to convince myself drinking at 11:00 am is not a good thing.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-13 11:56:49
ID: 60567
In response to a confession. It’s been this way all our lives. I do the leg work, brother does very little then crows about it. But I WILL say something this time. I just have to do it when I can be succinct and to-the-point. Right now if I tried to say anything to him I’d say stuff that can’t be unsaid.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-06-12 22:30:39
ID: 60554
It's breaking my heart watching ds, every time he gets a letter saying that he didn't get a college scholarship. (He's going to community college for two years and then transferring to a university.) He's not getting them because he has no extra-curriculars. He has no ECs because his father was so mad that I got custody, that he wouldn't let ds do anything if it interfered with his visitation time. Not even school-related sports, UNLESS ds participated in things in his father's community as well (about an hour away), and he would have to play every single game, even on my weekends. Ds didn't want to be getting up early on weekends at home to make that drive and play for hours. This was all to get back at me. I let go of my hate for my ex years ago, but it's boiling up again.
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