Posted by: anonymous

2018-05-20 23:01:26

ID: 54984

My friend just had a baby girl and gave her a really trendy name (think lots of gratuitous "y"s and "n"s). I told her I like it, but secretly I'm thinking "that poor kid!".

metoo(0) omg(0) fave(4) hug(0)

Posted by: anonymous

2018-05-19 13:02:27

ID: 54947

Nope. I'm married but neither of us were ever married or had kids before marrying each other. But I was a kid whose parents divorced. I had a step-father, but he died shortly after he and my mom got married. Dad never remarried.

metoo(0) omg(0) fave(1) hug(0) comments(0)

Posted by: anonymous

2018-05-18 22:41:31

ID: 54937

Let me guess....you're a bio Mom with a step mom in your kid's life, right? Your reply sounds like life would be all hearts 'n flowers if step parents just didn't exist.

metoo(0) omg(0) fave(1) hug(0)

Posted by: anonymous

2018-05-17 22:56:41

ID: 54920

My dh is a good guy. We are buddies, get along great and laugh a lot. But... I'm bored as hell with the sexual part. It's a total chore and I can't wait for it to be over. I would never tell him that though, he would be devastated. And there is nothing that could bring the sexual attraction back, I'm just over it. No therapy, spicing things up, etc..would help. Don't want to leave but don't want to live the rest of my life like this. But I could live the rest of my life without having sex with him and be fine. I still have the desire, just not for him. I'm not cheating or anything like that, I just feel stuck.

metoo(37) omg(0) fave(1) hug(21) comments(0)

Posted by: anonymous

2018-05-16 18:28:25

ID: 54888

I'm glad you took it slow, but you did eventually move in, spend all holidays, etc. with the kids and their dad, right? I mean they still had to deal with that eventually. Maybe they loved you and loved the idea of their dad marrying you but maybe that changed when the realty of what that meant actually hit. Maybe bio mom did say horrible things about you. ANd maybe the kids hated that she did that. But she has always been their bio mom and that hasn't (and can't) change. But they didn't have to deal with that until you became step-mom. They may still not hate you, but they hate the situation. The truth is, it would but much easier on them if step parents weren't in the picture. That's not to say you are a bad person, it's just a terrible situation for kids to be in.

metoo(0) omg(1) fave(0) hug(0) comments(0)

Posted by: anonymous

2018-05-16 14:23:59

ID: 54885

Dating a man with 2 grown sons and a 15 year old. His grown sons are out of the house and state. His 15 year old lives with him. I have a grown dd that is out of the house and 17, almost 18 year old ds lives with me. We haven't met each others kids. I'm so scared too, because of all the horror stories I've heard. Him and I love each other. We've only been dating 2 months.

metoo(0) omg(2) fave(0) hug(4) comments(3)

Posted by: anonymous

2018-05-16 05:11:44

ID: 54679

My son recently learned that the meat and chicken we eat are the animal's muscles. So now he asks for "chicken muscles" when we're ordering food at a restaurant or "cow muscles". LOL

metoo(0) omg(0) fave(3) hug(0)

Posted by: anonymous

2018-05-15 22:30:17

ID: 54878

My DH and I dated for three years before we married. While dating, I NEVER spent the night on weekends he had his kids, and was never upset to let them have time with their dad. Their mom got married to the guy she was cheating with 31 days after their parents' divorce was final, and by the time I came into the picture she was on her third marriage. The kids had NO stability with her, and though I'd never been a step parent, I felt it was important for me not to invade family time. The four of us talked, spent quality time together, and had fun, but I told them up front I knew they had a mom. They were thrilled when we got married, Then when SD hit 14 she became disrespectful and started spouting stuff her mom said (her dad really scraped the bottom with me...a Mexican???). It's been a roller coaster for 30+ years. I know divorce affects kids, but why is it the step-parent who gets treated so badly? It's a rhetorical question....Not trying to start a fight here.

metoo(3) omg(0) fave(1) hug(8)

Posted by: anonymous

2018-05-15 21:14:17

ID: 54873

Imagine that your spouse bring home a friend to live with you without asking. The friend is really nice, buys you things, maybe even makes runs to the grocery store for you or does a load of laundry every now and then. But the friend is there, in your house, your space, and with you and your spouse all the time. I think you would get a little resentful and probably not like the friend. But your spouse points out how much the friend likes you, how nice they are, all the things they do for you, and they make your spouse happy. You can't expect your spouse to not have any friends. Your spouse may even say you are being ungrateful for everything the friend does for you. No one would blame you for being resentful and angry and not so nice to the friend. But this is essentially the situation kids are put in when step-parents are introduced. And no one seems to understand why kids aren't always happy with it.

metoo(3) omg(0) fave(3) hug(0) comments(1)

Posted by: anonymous

2018-05-15 19:56:25

ID: 54871

I never had a SM but I had a step-dad. I never liked him. He was a perfectly nice guy, but being a kid, I resented a fact that I even had a step anything. I resented the fact that what little time I spent with my mom, I had to share with him. I wanted to spend holidays with my family, not with a stranger (essentially). I was already reeling from the divorce, shuffling from house to house, etc. and now I had to share time with him. I didn't choose to be in that situation. I'm not saying any of this was right, but I think my feelings were not unusual or even unreasonable. Just thought I'd share this to offer some perspective from the other side.

metoo(0) omg(0) fave(2) hug(4) comments(0)