Posted by: anonymous

2020-06-28 23:00:32

ID: 64786

Watch my sister plan a birthday party for my niece and not invite me until about 15 minutes before it starts when I live 2 and 1/2 hours' drive away. Happens every single year. I try to ask her when and where the party is ahead of time but she never, ever plans anything til the last second. It's her kids that suffer because anyone who has to drive a ways ends up missing out.

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Posted by: anonymous

2020-06-25 16:22:22

ID: 64705

She has been talking to a therapist through zoom, thank God. The problem with me picking her up after four is that I usually go watch my grandmother, who is 98, in the evening. She doesn't like to go, because it's boring, not that I would bring her over now with covid. It's just a sad situation for her. I want her to be okay and happy. Her mom is such an abusive asshole.

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Posted by: Stormyweather

2020-06-23 20:13:02

ID: 64723

Where a child's welfare is concerned, I don't think you can ever "overstep"

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Posted by: anonymous

2020-06-23 01:16:20

ID: 64710

Nope, you didn't overstep, and good for you for calling him on it. My ex and I worked opposite schedules so one of us was with the baby and him not in daycare, and MIL filled in where necessary. SO many times she'd see that he did something like this, but wouldn't say or do anything. I'd come home from work to both of them sitting there, while the baby's diaper was about to fall off. One time, she had taken ds out all day and night without a coat in 22-degree weather. Why? Because that's how his dad had dressed him, and she didn't want to "step on his toes." You bleeping idiot!!! The fight between me and her, and then me and him, was what finally ended our relationship. SOMEONE had to stand up for this child!

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Posted by: anonymous

2020-06-22 22:52:57

ID: 64709

I don't think you overstepped at all. That is your grandchild. Being lazy to me means something like playing video games instead of taking her to the park. What he's doing is neglecting her. What does the baby mama think of all this?

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Posted by: anonymous

2020-06-22 16:36:08

ID: 64703

Popped in on DS25 and 3yo DGD- and she was in a piss soaked pull-up. I'm so fucking angry right now. Last time she came over, she went two days without a single potty accident. This is him being lazy, and I'm over it. I didn't rip him a new one in front of her (like I felt like doing), but I sent him a message as soon as I left letting him know how disappointed I am and how much it bothers me to see her like that. And if he wants any potty training advice or help I would love to help him. I also prefaced it with "I love you enough to be honest with you even when you won't like what I say." ... I don't want to be this person. Do you guys think I overstepped? I generally try really hard not to. But I just I honestly couldn't stop myself. I wanted to shake him, if I'm honest.

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Posted by: anonymous

2020-06-22 07:56:42

ID: 64682

I'm at my wits end. My brother is divorcing his psycho alcoholic wife and my sweet 11 year old niece has been just... going through it. She's never had much structure, and with quarantine/summertime, her mom moving out, and my brother working constantly, she has zero structure. My brother has begged me to hang out with her, and I do, but here's the problem: I also work full time and only have the weekend for her. We'll make plans for me to pick her up at noon, and when I get there to pick her up, and she's still in bed. Like dead to the world, will not get up, passed out asleep. When this happens, I leave. She'll then text me around 4, saying she's awake now and ready to hang out, and gets sad when I say no. We've had multiple discussions about how it's disrespectful to do this to someone. I've shown her how to set her alarm. We've discussed not going to bed at 3 am. I want to be there for her, but damn, kid! Work with me! I'm not burning my whole Saturday waiting for you to wake up!

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Posted by: anonymous

2020-06-21 18:54:06

ID: 64691

I've been creating a bug-out bag to keep in my car. A few changes of clothes, toiletries, important papers, insurance information, prescription medication, an umbrella, and a few other things. I keep having nightmares about a house fire. I've learned to listen to that little voice. DH doesn't want one for himself, thinks we'd have time to grab stuff on the way out... but what if the house burns down and we're not home? We'll lose our pets AND everything we own. So... I'm going to stick a change of his clothes in with mine. I just hope we never need these bags.

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Posted by: anonymous

2020-06-21 00:00:29

ID: 64674

Well, it was more DH that was doing everything for them and not me. And as it turns out, he's still going to be doing everything for them since he lost his job permanently and won't have to be gone during MIL's knee surgery.

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Posted by: anonymous

2020-06-20 06:43:43

ID: 64646

I'm so grateful my boyfriend is patient with me. I have to unlearn so much dysfunction from my 27 year marriage. He's not perfect, but he's willing to communicate and find solutions. That's huge to me! Ex never wanted to communicate. He'd just mumble a few words.

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