I'm at my wits end. My brother is divorcing his psycho alcoholic wife and my sweet 11 year old niece has been just... going through it. She's never had much structure, and with quarantine/summertime, her mom moving out, and my brother working constantly, she has zero structure. My brother has begged me to hang out with her, and I do, but here's the problem: I also work full time and only have the weekend for her. We'll make plans for me to pick her up at noon, and when I get there to pick her up, and she's still in bed. Like dead to the world, will not get up, passed out asleep. When this happens, I leave. She'll then text me around 4, saying she's awake now and ready to hang out, and gets sad when I say no. We've had multiple discussions about how it's disrespectful to do this to someone. I've shown her how to set her alarm. We've discussed not going to bed at 3 am. I want to be there for her, but damn, kid! Work with me! I'm not burning my whole Saturday waiting for you to wake up!