I'm a mom with children that have a SM, I made sure to tell the kids to wish the SM a Happy MD. We didn't go out of our way to get flowers and cards and candy...but she does a lot for them, she's there for them, she cares for them, keeps them clean and fed, does homework with them over the phone even when it's not dad's time (she's a math wiz so she helps w/ that subject). I don't know, I believe in peace and harmony for me and my children, I think it's important to acknowledge the ones that are willing to care for my children even though they don't have to. Everyone is different I suppose, but encouraging peace and respect is a good thing. I admit, it wasn't easy at first, but I got over it.