A high school friend and I both have 16yo boys. Mine does really well in school and has never, ever been in trouble. He's kind, compassionate and respectful. My friend's son has been in jail several times and was just picked up on a warrant. What's the difference? Well, even though ds' dad and I separated when he was a toddler, I made sure that I was there for ds at all times. I never got a babysitter to go out on dates or party with my friends (I did that when ds was at dad's). My friend, however, cheated on her dh and ran off with the guy, leaving everything behind, including her son. She had a great life with a good dh, nice house & vacation house, and gave it all up to party 24/7. She literally goes out every night and rarely sees her son. And now she's asking for prayers for her ds and says how sad it all is. How sad indeed. That poor boy. This angers me!!!