What I noticed was that as the kids got older, I was busier, they were busier... it just made sense for them to start doing laundry for themselves around middle school. It wasn't because I didn't want to take care of them. It was more like I'm running around crazy with work, dinner, and their school activities, life in general..and my 11yo daughter wants desperately to wear THIS particular shirt tomorrow... and it's dirty. Yeah, she can wash a load of laundry for herself. Come to think of it- it probably did boil down to them getting a lot more particular about the clothes they wanted to wear. For my family, that's how it worked.