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Posted by: anonymous
2014-05-11 18:56:02
ID: 3649
My parents went thru my stuff-everything from opening my mail and going thru my handbag when I was in the shower. My mom read my diary when I was 14 and was practically laughing about it when she told me, then started crying when I got angry. A few months prior to that I wrote a nasty letter to a classmate, never intending to give it to her, just needed to blow off some steam,no threats or anything like that, my Mom found it, didint say anything to me, gave it to my father, and then one night they sat me down and put me thru the Spanish inquistion for about an hour over that stupid letter. First my dad asked me if I knew anyone named -------. I said yes she goes to my school. My dad asked do you get along with her? I said no not really she dosent like me for some reason and calls me names and tries to get other kids to to do it too. This went on a good 15 minutes- all kinds of questions- What names? Why? Who else? How often?How long? Where? How? Do you call her names back?Who else heard?Do you say anything back to her? When was the last time? Where was the teacher? Why dosent she like you? (I honesly had no idea why she didint like me) There must be a reason why she dosent like you! Tell us why right now!?! By then I was near tears, and then my father pulled the letter out of his pocket and read it aloud. I had never meant for anyone to see it, it had a lot of swearing etc in it, so I was ashamed and humiliated. He read the whole letter, it was less than a page, but by then I was sobbing, and kept saying "Im sorry, I didint mean for anyone to see it" He kept reading the letter, swear words and all.Then, questions about the letter- Why did you call her ----- in the letter? How long ago did you write this? Why did you keep it? where did you write it? and so on. Are SURE you were not going to give it to her? (at least 5 times he asked this) How long were you going to keep it? Why did you use that terrible language? WHY WHY WHY, and so on.After about an hour, the questioning stopped, I had stopped crying, as I was leaving the room something funny came on TV, I laughed a little thru my tears, and my dad turned to my mom and said, "See? She is happier now that we talked about this!" Then turned to me and said, "Right??Right? RIIIGHT??!" I nodded just because I wanted to go to my room and be alone. I knew if I didint agree there would have been more interrogation and I was literally sick to my stomach.My dad thinks I had a perfect childhood. He is of course older now and does not remember this or any of the other verbal/emotional abuse I was put thru as a child.I was supposed to go to religious education that night, but my parents had me stay home, because "you are going to learn something at home tonight" What I learned was that I cannot trust my parents or express my feelings. Was I really expected to be happier after an hour of embarrassing interrogation? I was embarrassed and uncomfortable at home for weeks.
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-05-11 18:31:53
ID: 3646
"Get over it" is just about the most childish thing you can say to a person. You might have a similar experience, but you don't know their life. Don't be a dick.
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-05-11 17:54:50
ID: 3643
I have an oddball name and you know what? I got over it. It is what it is. It actually sounds like a type of food. When people here it for the first time they crinkle up their forehead and go, "HOW do you say that?" I repeat it once or twice, I say "It sound like that particular food," They say, 'Oh, that's unusual," I say, "Yup, been hearing that my whole life," Then we move past it. I certainly don't have post traumatic stress disorder over it, nor do I resent my parents. They named me something they thought was cool and different. So what. People need to relax and pull the panties out of their cracks.
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-05-11 17:21:49
ID: 3639
These people who think they have a right to name a kid whatever they want really should think of the consequences. Take it from someone who has a very weird name. Years of side-eyes, people laughing at my name, bullying, childishness, bitterness towards my parents over my name that lead to huge family rifts because they were hurt I didn't like it, and then actually having to PAY so I don't get picked on anymore when I became old enough to change my own name...I should have sent a bill for the charges to my parents. Frankly, I think it's selfish arrogance that makes people choose stupid names for their children. You're not the one that has to live with them.
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-05-11 17:11:05
ID: 3635
Mother's Day is always kind of a weird day for me. I always wish my mom and all the other mommies out there a Happy Mother's Day, but my husband and I having been trying for a child for 7+ years, and are currently working on adopting through the state. I just try to be happy for others and spend the day with my hubby doing fun things. Some day it will happen for us and then we can really celebrate! (and that goes for Father's Day, too!)
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-05-11 15:20:40
ID: 3627
This is the first Mother's Day without my mom. My kids and husband are being super sweet but it's hard not having her here. I miss her so much
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-05-11 14:17:49
ID: 3625
I hate when people think you should never feel bad because you have things you should be grateful for or that other people have it worse. This is a confession site, a place where people get things off their chest. Don't mind response posts but hateful ones should be deleted. The last thing some of these people need is more shit piled on top.
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-05-11 14:16:05
ID: 3624
Maximilian is a decent name, unique but not weird. Only, please spell it correctly. "Maximillion" looks kind of ghetto.
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-05-11 14:13:58
ID: 3623
I'll be honest. I actually find this site depressing. I'm not seeing much support for anyone here, just a lot of put downs and snark. I'm going to take a break because I feel depressed after coming here. Maybe it will get better. : (
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-05-11 14:10:37
ID: 3619
I MISS MY MOM
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