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Posted by: anonymous
2014-04-02 17:54:34
ID: 1207
DD5 has big emotions. When she's happy, her joy can carry over to everyone around her. When DD5 gets stressed or angry, she freezes and sometimes cries or screams. DH usually sends her to her room to calm down. I'm trying to teach her to handle her emotions w/o sending her away. Last night, she freaked out and got really mad when her brother got some dessert and she wanted some, too. When told that has to ask politely, she angrily shouted "PLEASE!!" I told her she may not shout at me and that she needs to take a breath and calm her voice and ask again. She tried and then cried harder and said "I don't know how!!" So I spent over 10 minutes explaining how to breathe, saying different nonsense phrases (The quick brown fox jumped over the angry dog; the rain in spain stays mainly on the plain) to teach her how to switch her brain from angry/freaked out to a different channel of calm and neutral. I'm doing this b/c I have the same problem and this sometimes works for me. I'd like her to learn this before she is older. She tried and tried and eventually got out "please" in a normal tone. When I asked her what worked, she said it was putting a cloth over her eyes and holding her breath. I congratulated her and gave her the dessert.
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-04-02 17:41:03
ID: 1205
I was young when I had my first child. Very young. And I didn't do a very good job with that child. I was too busy living what I thought "my life" should be like. 15 years later, I had another child. And I was so good at being a mother this time around. Even my oldest has noticed it. He always asks why he didn't get to have the same Mom. It kills me inside everyday. I'm wracked with guilt. And to make matters worse, sometimes I can't stand being around my oldest. Because he is everything that I used to be. Arrogant, defiant, rude, disrespectful. It makes it hard for me to love him. He is my little boy but most times I don't like him. And he holds his awful childhood over me all the time. How can we get past it and make a good life for our family? I'm at a loss. I'm a shit mom
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-04-02 17:36:19
ID: 1203
Ummm, we bailed our daughter out of financial screw-ups because she has our grandchildren. She's actually done a lot better in the last two years. I just don't understand why big birthdays for your kids is more important than paying bills...guess her dad and I weren't so successful in raising her. Oh, and thanks for the LACK OF support here!
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-04-02 16:47:14
ID: 1199
my dd is almost 24. she went almost 2 years without drinking. she started again. not sloppy drinking and getting drunk. just going out with friends and having a drink or 2. her ex-boyfriend also od'ed last month. he was her 1st love. worried and scared for her, but it is her life and she has her own place and pays all her own bills.
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-04-02 15:12:56
ID: 1185
"Through the years we've had to bail her out financially because of her choices." You didn't have to do this. You chose to do this. If she knows you'll bail her out what incentive does she have to become fiscally responsible?
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-04-02 14:59:50
ID: 1183
I love my DD35 with all my heart, and her dad and I did everything we could to raise her to be responsible. Through the years we've had to bail her out financially because of her choices. Two years ago we told her the Bank of Mom and Dad was closed....this morning she called to say her water had been shut off and she needed $250 to get it turned on. This was after being at her house last night for my granddaughter's birthday party...where her parents gave her two purses, a pair of Keds, jeans, 2 t-shirts and a new cell phone. Priorities????? I may be wrong for paying for the water bill, but the Mom in me just couldn't help it!
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-04-02 14:44:35
ID: 1182
My dad did everything right. Ate healthy, lived healthy, everything the doctor asked him to, pushed through the hard treatments and was winning that battle. They still wanted him up above and they didn't give up until they had him. Sometimes life is not fair and I'm so heartbroken. I want him back.
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-04-02 13:17:19
ID: 1172
I don't understand people who bond with their co workers. Work is work. Friends are friends. You can be friendly with a co worker but it's rare that it becomes reall friendship. I have a couple such friends from old working days, but I consider our relationship to be a miracle, coming from where it did.
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-04-02 08:07:31
ID: 1162
I love that this site updates in real time! I loved Truu but after the sale went through a couple years ago things went to sh*t in a hand basket on Truu. No more waiting for the Mod to update or no updates like when Truu went to sh*t. No more waiting for someone to come back from vacation to update Truu or being given sugar coated lies about what's going on or being left in the dark about what's going on. I never did believe what we were being told about what's going on. I thought we were spoon fed lies and many of the Truu users believed them or should I say they wanted to believe them. I think I love this site waaaaay better than Truu! And I'm so glad to see so many of the users I liked on Truu have found their way here.
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Posted by: anonymous
2014-04-02 04:55:17
ID: 1153
I overheard some men spouting some bs at my job. "If a woman doesn't have children by the time she's thirty, something is wrong with her." I'm in my early twenties, but I was very offended by the statement. Yes, there is the possibility of a medical condition, but that doesn't make something 'wrong' with the woman in the way that is implied. Also, I didn't know we lived in an age where women were still absolutely obligated to have children. Women can have obligations, goals, and dreams, that don't have to revolve around having a child on their lap. I truly hope that men who think like this are in the vast minority. Let a man not have children at thirty. He's living the dream, right? Or is his check being garnished for child support every month?
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