My ex (DS15 & DD10's bio dad), has never really been around for them. Long story short, he was only in DS''s life, then when DD was 9 months old, I finally left for good. The years to follow, he'd make promises that he'd never keep, and now DS is resentful of him (ya think?). About a year ago, he finally reappeared, but neither one of my kids want anything to do with him. I get a whopping $76 per month in child support (he's on disability), and nothing more. We're friends on FB & still talk from time to time, but he's always posting pictures of tattoos that he's doing and "checking in" at all these restaurants spending $$ that he's made from said tattoos. I want to take him back to court for more child support but DH thinks that with the way things are ($76 p/month), it's his way of staying OUT of the kids lives and ruining our happy and loving family. DH is dad to them, and always will be and loves them unconditionally. We're fine with mine and DH's salaries alone, but it'd be nice to have the ex pay more.