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Posted by: anonymous
2017-10-18 17:57:35
ID: 51287
My bil once said "He didn't mean to kill her, he was only going to rape her.", regarding the rape and murder of a woman up where they live. It wasn't someone that he knew, not personally, but it's a small world up north and he was basically saying that if he "only" raped that woman, it would have been ok. I was with dh when he said that and dh didn't even get why that bothered me so much until I explained to him that rape is really bad and even without the murder part, it's a really huge bad big deal.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-10-18 15:40:39
ID: 51279
Stole this quote, but it's great. "We talk about how many women were raped last year, not about how many men raped women. We talk about how many girls in a school district were harassed last year, not about how many boys harassed girls. We talk about how many girls in the state of Vermont got pregnant last year, rather than how many men or boys impregnated teenage girls. So you can see how the use of the passive voice has a political effect. (It) shifts the focus off of men and boys and onto girls and women. Even the term 'violence against women' is problematic. It's a passive construction; there's no active agent in the sentence. It's a bad thing that happens to women, but when you look at that term, 'violence against women," nobody is doing it to them. It just happens to them. Men aren't even a part of it." -Jackson Katz
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-10-18 12:42:40
ID: 51271
One issue I'm having with the "me too" thing is that the pressure is on women, YET again, to have to be the ones to open up, explain and then often defend themselves against victim blaming pigs. How about men standing and saying "me too" as an admission that they themselves have been sexist or sexually aggressive in the past? Or "Sorry". Or "We believe you". Or something like that. I'm not sure who's learning from this. And I doubt many minds are going to be changed by it. I mean it's a great way to raise awareness, but it seems to me the Western world is already hyper aware of these issues. Half of it is fighting for change, the other half is passing it off as "her fault for dressing/behaving like a slut", "not a big deal", "not REAL(TM) rape" or "but what about how Muslim men treat women, they're the real animals" and so conveniently passing the buck on taking responsibility themselves so they can blame the evil foreigners.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-10-18 12:24:48
ID: 51270
I'm sure whoever started the hashtag would not want to think anyone was pressured into sharing. I certainly wouldn't share. And although I've never been raped, if I was to share every time I'd been assaulted or harassed it would be a pages long text wall and in the first instance I was about seven years old.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-10-18 04:51:05
ID: 51259
I want to post #metoo but I just don't have it in me right now to defend myself from the dumbass men (and some women, too), who I've seen victim blaming. I unfriended 4 men and 1 woman this week because of their responses to #metoo. It's sad and vile and I'm just so fucking tired of it. I wish there was a way to report misogyny on Facebook.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-10-18 04:46:55
ID: 51260
I didn't do the "me too" thing on FB either. For one thing, I don't need several older family members knowing about that. I don't need several co-worker friends knowing about that. I don't need several casual acquaintances knowing about that. You know what? It's personal. I don't see anything wrong with anyone talking about it publicly, but that's a personal decision that someone needs to make after careful thought. Yes, something bad happened to me once and I will only talk about it with a select few.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-10-18 04:41:40
ID: 50974
In response to a confession. This is one reason I'm a little cautious when my coworkers ask me what I do for exercise. They're all really into fitness, but a few of them are Bible thumpers (who view all other religions as cults), and I don't want to endure a lecture on why my downward dog is sending me to hell. I'm definitely one of the yogis who only does it for exercise.
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Posted by: greensquirrel
2017-10-17 15:44:21
ID: 51257
The whole #metoo deal on FB is really fucking with my head. I want to be brave and out about being a victim of sexual assault and harassment, I want to be supportive, I want to commiserate, I do, but I just can't put myself out there for the world to see me in that way. I don't want people thinking, huh, I wonder what happened to greensquirrel? I don't want people to think of me as a victim, I was, I am, but I'm working on being strong and don't want to be seen as less than what I am working on being. Anyone else feeling like that?
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-10-17 04:57:30
ID: 51208
I am in just in love with all the cute mustard coloured jumpers that are out this year. I'm in danger of drowning in mustard tops.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-10-16 14:15:59
ID: 51222
I'd love for someone to say "calm your tits" and then rip my shirt open to show them I don't have any, just scars. I have a very dark sense of humour.
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Not the Official Fascia Blaster. But the same concept: