DH is sitting here drunk babbling about how I f'ed him over because I ruined our credit, I had an affair, (we were separated), how our ds/18 wants to beat him up, and how our 28/dd is pregnant. He doesn't see that the common thread is HIM and him being an alcoholic. Mean, abusive/verbally for years, not here for any of us because he worked, came home, and would sit in his shed until bed time. I have worked my whole adult life and then some. I took care of the kids and all their needs. He appreciates nothing. Our ds is lost right now but I have hope, and our dd and her boyfriend have their lives together. Not perfect but they're trying. He doesn't find happiness in anything.