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Posted by: anonymous
2019-08-19 00:22:54
ID: 61457
After being with a guy for less than 6 months, my best friend in college quit school and moved away with him-across the country-3000 miles. They broke up a year later. There she was 3000 miles away from home, alone.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-08-18 22:35:28
ID: 61454
In response to a confession. I totally agree. I wanted to go to grad school for biochemistry and research diabetes mechanisms and potential treatments. But when I met future DH, he wanted me to get married and move away. I left my job where I was really liking things, my family, and all my friends to move to where he had a job and I basically put my entire life on hold so he could build his career. If I could go back to 22 year old me, I would have grabbed her and told her that stupid ring was not that great and that she should have stayed in school and not worried about what a man thought of her. I also grew up very religious and that is literally ALL they cared about though--getting married and cranking out kids. So maybe that was part of why I felt so compelled to get married right away.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-08-18 12:13:09
ID: 61448
it is so true that marriage and motherhood are seen as the ultimate purpose or accomplishment in a woman's life. i busted my ass to earn a doctorate in molecular science while working full-time. i just finished a couple weeks ago. it was one of the hardest things i've ever done. i am poised for a new position to help build and head a new genetics lab in my area. it's basically my dream job and i'm super excited. yet i find that i got way more congrats, "likes", and just general excitement and interest when i announced my engagement a few years ago. the number 1 thing i'm being asked after someone finds out i'm done with school is "so are you gonna have a baby now?". i find all of this equally sad and frustrating.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-08-18 08:11:30
ID: 61447
I don't know where to turn or who to talk to about my sadness, emptiness and loneliness. Those closest to me know some of it, but not all. I don't take my antidepressants anymore. They stopped working and I don't want to take pills anymore. I believe in God, I am grateful and thankful for all I have, but can't escape the feelings. I stopped going to see my therapist too, as I could only see her once a month. I'm 48 years old, still job hunting, living with but separated from dh for awhile now, and missing a man who broke my heart but wants me back. I might be lonely but will never get back with him. I'm in the middle of the storm and am praying I get out of it. I sometimes wish I could fall asleep and never wake up. Can you pray for me if you're a praying person? Thank you.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-08-18 01:50:43
ID: 61441
Married my high school sweetheart at 18 and divorced him at 22. Passed up a scholarship to become a pharmacist to marry a Marine and move 1000 miles from home. Stayed single for ten years then married again. Quit my good job, sold my house, got in my car and followed him to Arizona. Lived in several states for five years then moved home and bought a house. We have grown kids, grown grandkids and a great grandkid. I’ll be 63 in a week and I’ve realized that everything I’ve done in my life was for someone else’s benefit. Kinda makes me sad; kinda pisses me off.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-08-18 00:51:48
ID: 61437
In response to a confession. When I started dating DH, my parents treated him like their son. In fact, my dad said he liked DH better than my brother because he would help my dad do stuff around the garage. DH's parents claimed I'm just their only daughter who lives nearby (DH's sisters both live across the country). It's a very, very nice feeling to know your ILs like you like their own kid.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-08-18 00:12:55
ID: 61432
In response to a confession. because, unfortunately, women are still brainwashed by culture and society from a young age that marriage (and kids) are the ultimate prize and purpose in life. It makes me sad when i find beautiful, smart, accomplished women made to feel shitty about themselves because they aren't married by X age. Things seem to be changing though, albeit slowly. As a married woman who also wouldn't do it again if i could go back in time, i try to instill in my younger sisters that marriage is just one of MANY options in life and not necessarily the best one despite what society says.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-08-17 20:15:51
ID: 61430
If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't get married either. But I can't imagine not having my daughters. They are the two most amazing human beings I've ever known.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-08-17 14:38:40
ID: 61426
Women usually do not gain anything by getting married. Why do people not understand this? The only time a woman might gain by getting married is if she marries a wealthy man who treats her well. And if you marry a man with kids? You will be a servant more than anything else.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-08-17 14:35:32
ID: 61425
In response to a confession. LOL my parents hated literally EVERYONE....the neighbors, pretty all of my friends, a lot of our family...everyone can't be bad.
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