I left my exH almost 6 years ago to get away from the abuse. Divorce doesn't stop abuse. Restraining orders and jail time do not stop these men from doing things to you. After leaving these types of men, the abuse gets worse because they're so angered you left them. And if you have children, they use them to be able to get to you too. It's not easy, and sometimes not possible to fully escape. If you try to move on with other men, they'll do things to make the new men leave. They do this when you try to get jobs and make friends too. At least when you're with the abuser, you can feel when it's coming. But when you leave, you're always watching your back and on high anxiety wondering what and when something will happen.