Having bipolar doesn't mean you can excuse all your crap behavior on a mental illness. You still need to take responsibility for the things you say, do and the people you affect. Yes, it's a horrible illness but the person who has it needs to seek treatment and follow recommendations. That means not skipping therapy appointments, not playing around with meds, not abusing drugs or alcohol and apologizing when you screw up. All of which my ex refused to do. His family thinks it's terrible that I walked away. I didn't leave him because his bipolar. I left him because of his choices.