Big hugs to you and good job on not smoking! My dh and I quit a few years ago. Vaping REALLY helped my dh taper off the nicotine. I still have a cigarette maybe once a month, but my dh asked me not to tell him if I do, or where I keep my pack. I can smoke one and then not have one for weeks, but my dh can't control himself. If they're in the house, he'll smoke them all in one day. I once bought a pack of clove cigarettes and he sucked down the whole pack in an afternoon (barf). I think vaping also helped him because it's something he can fidget with, you know? Our quitting styles were just very different. You two will figure out what works for you. Good luck to you both!