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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-25 03:25:11
ID: 46897
In response to a confession. I am always amazed that anytime the merest hit of taking responsibility for ones circumstance and making a change is suggested, that poster gets shit on. Evidently the only proper response, is "oh poor you with the lazy husband, you poor dear!" That helps nothing. It actually further enforces this idea of helplessness.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-24 21:50:22
ID: 46899
I'm the OP. Of course the situation is insanely frustrating. I started therapy to help get my feelings sorted out. On one level, I still do have feelings for him, but the way he is acting is driving me nuts. He claims that it's because he hates his job so much and if he didn't have that job, he would be so much more ambitious. Plus, I sort of feel like I owe him something because he offered to pay for my school. And the dog and cat didn't die while I was gone, but he didn't give them water or give them any food, so they were damn hungry. So I don't know how he thinks he would be able to get up every day at 5am to milk a herd of goats. Sorry to bitch about it, but due to how my school is set up, I won't be in a position to leave for at least a few months. I think on some level, I still think I can "fix things". My therapist is awesome and is helping me realize I'll never be able to force him to grow up.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-24 21:29:46
ID: 46898
In response to a confession. What does this mean? " he couldn't even keep our cat and dog alive while I was gone for a week". Did your cat and dog die while you were gone?!
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-24 21:13:43
ID: 46896
In response to a confession. So spending more time botching about him helps? He sounds like a real loser and she doesn't sound like she wants to be with him. Why waste anymore time?
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-24 19:54:43
ID: 46886
In response to a confession. Yes, it will absolutely be worth it.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-24 19:54:08
ID: 46893
In response to a confession. Not OP but the people I know who have goats use them as easy lawn maintenance and for goat milk. Cashmere and mohair come from goats too.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-24 19:51:10
ID: 46889
He thinks he could still "have" me if he wanted. He has no idea that I hate every thing about him; every bone in his body. He has no idea that I figured out just what a monster he actually is. I rather enjoy watching him act around me as if he lights up my world. Asshole. Go to hell.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-24 19:36:43
ID: 46885
In response to a confession. YES! Posts like that bug me too. This might be mean but in my head I imagine that poster as overweight and I just feel like telling her, "Why don't you just stop eating junk and exercise? Huh?" Because things we struggle with in life are just SO EASY to fix, right?
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-24 18:34:09
ID: 46891
In response to a confession. Not being snarky, but what is the point of having a bunch of goats? You don't use them for their meat or their fur..what exactly do you do with them?? He sounds like he can't even take care of himself to begin with. Seems like he has a loose screw or two. He's probably waiting for you to go fulltime and then he will conveniently quit his job and do nothing.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-24 14:02:02
ID: 46883
In response to a confession. Posts like this really bug me. I'm not the op but I've been where she is, and leaving your spouse (who you've invested years with) is a process. A long and sometimes difficult process. I loved my ex-husband. We were together for a decade. It's a painful, complicated ordeal, and you don't simply walk away. It isn't always easy doing what's best for you. You think she doesn't want to just pack her bags and stop "wasting her time?" Have an ounce of empathy for her. Divorce sucks.
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