I have a friend who has been happily married for 10 years. They just went through a divorce, very suddenly, when the wife realized she was poly and the husband is strongly not. In talking to the husband last night, he got tipsy and started telling me that he is much happier now, which makes him feel guilty. He always thought he was happy before this, but he relied on his wife for all companionship. But now that she isn't there, he is finding his friends really want to support him. And he has started going to all the gatherings and trips and he always been invited too, but didn't go to because his wife didn't think they sounded like fun. He said he has had more fun in the last month than he had in the previous year. I'm so sorry he had to go through a divorce, but I am so happy he isn't just dealing with his new life, but is full-on loving it!