I like doing the grocery shopping, too. Plus, since I put more effort into wanting to save money and do the meal planning, it just plain works better if I do it. If it doesn't bother me and it doesn't bother DH that he always changes oil on the cars and mows the lawn and whatnot, why does it matter to anyone else? It's all about what you and your partner work out between the two of you. No one's marriage is going to be identical to anyone else's. Can we just respect that and move on? Sheesh.