Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-27 07:04:07
ID: 46967
In response to a confession. I was going to say just get a new damn dishwasher, but you saying to your DH's face that you hoped he died is pretty fucked up. You need counseling before your marriage does. Like damn OP, that's some serious shit to say to your spouse...because of dishes??! Wow.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-27 01:27:19
ID: 46958
In response to a confession. Confused my ass. The "encouraging" is condescending bullshit. She obviously knows she can do better because she's repeatedly said THAT SHE'S FUCKING LEAVING HIM. Jesus. Reading comprehension. Saying shit like "omg, op, like, I totally don't understand why you don't leave him," when she's said multiple fucking times that she is planning to divorce him, translates into nothing more than someone feeding their own ego by being condescending. Leave her alone.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-26 21:55:44
ID: 46960
I hate that he's still on my mind, and pops up in my dreams. It's been 20 years. And running into his mother, who told me I was the one that got away (he had told her this recently) didn't help. Glad he lives 16 hours away.I'm married so nothing can happen, but if I ever get divorced or widowed I'm for sure looking him up. I need closure either way!
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-26 21:50:38
ID: 46959
I haven't seen anyone belittle the OP on here. When she bitches about him on here, I'm sure she's expecting feedback. And who the hell would encourage someone to stay with an unbalanced, lazy-ass that looks down on her and can't even do basic chores?! Plus ready to quit his job and sleep away the day while she's working and taking care of the household alone. Fuck all that. And if that's mean, oh well.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-26 21:17:35
ID: 46957
In response to a confession. I think it's ok to encourage someone to stand up for themselves. I don't think it's ok to call her names, like prostitute or insinuating that she's lazy or stupid or so desperate to be with a man, any man that she will put up with his bullshit. It's like, you get married, it's wonderful, they're wonderful, you're wonderful and slowly over time things change. For the better or for the worse, but no one lives in a vacuum. If it's for the worse, it probably happened so slowly that it's like, one day, you just say to yourself, wow, this is bullshit and I don't want to deal with this anymore. It's how I got so fat. It happened so slowly that one day I went to put on my biggest fat pants and bam, they were tight. Insidious.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-26 20:55:19
ID: 46951
Im confused as to why its not ok to encourage this person to not put up with this shitty husband. She thinks she can't do better. She can. Not sure why that is not considered positive encouragement.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-26 20:54:36
ID: 46955
I don't understand why some people think it's okay to treat people shitty. I mean the DH in this whole debacle, along with belittling OP, and really a lot of people do it. Just stop. Have some empathy. Use common sense. Don't be selfish. Don't be lazy. Do what's right, and don't hurt people. Be cool to each other.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-26 20:52:33
ID: 46954
Sometimes my dh drives me so crazy I have these thoughts of wishing him dead because he has a huge life insurance policy. I have fantasies of living by myself and just having everything exactly how I want it. Then I tell him, like we'll be sitting in the car and I'll tell him I was hoping he would die because I hate how he loads the dishwasher (we have a shitty dishwasher, if you don't get all the bits off the dishes the food detritus gets all over the other dishes making all the dishes dirtier than when you put them in. Therefore you have to hand wash all the dishes. I just hand washes dishes because I hate the dishwasher) and how much more work he's making for me when it's my turn to unload and load the dishwasher/do the dishes. Sigh. We seriously fight about the dishes all the time. I think we need to go back to marriage counseling because of the dishes.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-26 20:25:30
ID: 46945
Before I left my ex-husband, I still had a lot of hope that we could fix things. I didn't want to just walk away from the man I'd devoted my life to. I took my marital vows seriously. I didn't marry to get divorced. It was through therapy that I learned to do what was best for me; that he wasn't going to change, and just because he used to be loving didn't mean he was magically going to morph back into that person. People aren't stagnant. We evolve and so do our relationships. Our marriage was no longer a priority to him. Accepting that took time. So, go easy on the op who's dealing with this. You don't have to understand her situation, but it takes zero effort to not be condescending to her.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-26 20:24:21
ID: 46932
In response to a confession. Yeah, you buncha jerks, what were you thinking? Defending a woman who's being bitched at because she needed to confess her thoughts while going through a difficult time in her life. Shame on you for showing empathy to a stranger instead of kicking her while she's down. It's almost like you're a bunch of decent human beings.
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