I think it's ok to encourage someone to stand up for themselves. I don't think it's ok to call her names, like prostitute or insinuating that she's lazy or stupid or so desperate to be with a man, any man that she will put up with his bullshit. It's like, you get married, it's wonderful, they're wonderful, you're wonderful and slowly over time things change. For the better or for the worse, but no one lives in a vacuum. If it's for the worse, it probably happened so slowly that it's like, one day, you just say to yourself, wow, this is bullshit and I don't want to deal with this anymore. It's how I got so fat. It happened so slowly that one day I went to put on my biggest fat pants and bam, they were tight. Insidious.