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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-25 22:15:14
ID: 46933
Op, I sure hope you leave him after you go fulltime. Sounds like he's waiting for you to go back to work so he can quit his job. And not to find a better one. To sleep on the couch all day and leave messes and chores for you to do after you've worked all day. While he does nothing. I would move out and not look back, especially if there's no kids involved. He sounds totally brainless anyway..I mean, how do you not know to feed a pet daily?? My 6yo niece could handle that chore.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-25 21:47:51
ID: 46925
It's weird to me when someone who isn't even the OP jumps out to be the "non condescending police." What a thin skin and the post isn't even about you! The OP reposted with more of the story and sounds like she hasn't been crushed by these "belittling" comments. This is a board, on the internet, not therapy! Those comments weren't harsh - it's not freaking normal that someone wouldn't feed pets for days!! Wtf? And clearly the goat farm was not a business plan - it was a ridiculous idea in the hands of this irresponsible man!! The OP has a great therapist she says and knows her way forward. She can vent and we can be appalled. Calm down.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-25 21:47:07
ID: 46923
In response to a confession. No, that's not all you did, and you know it. You were rude and condescending to someone who's having a hard time. Sure, she talks about his crappy behavior, but she also has said multiple times that she's getting her affairs in order to leave him. Jfc, cut her a break. She's allowed to complain and I hope she continues to do so. This is the perfect place to do it. Lemme guess, you're the sort who doesn't have empathy until it happens to you. Stormy weather, indeed.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-25 21:23:48
ID: 46930
In response to a confession. I'm still married to him because I think, on some level, I don't think I could ever get anyone else to marry me. He didn't always used to be like this. He used to be really ambitious and would get a bunch of stuff done in his spare time. It's only been really the last 3 or 4 years that he's started getting bad--he was diagnosed as bipolar and that depressed him, he got a different job and now he hates it, and I honestly think he needs some kind of therapy to deal with his issues. I just miss the way he used to be. He used to help a lot more and when I'd go out of town, he'd clean the house for me so it'd be clean when I got home. I've been considering divorce for a few years now, but it's only been really recently that he's been hinting at quitting his job entirely once I get a job after graduating and I'm pretty sure he won't get any more ambitious if he has absolutely nothing to do all day.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-25 17:38:10
ID: 46916
In response to a confession. All I ask was why she was still married to this guy!!! Jesus, whats wrong with that? She has given multiple examples of his shit behaviour so I din't see why this is a wrong question??? It sounds like she could do a lot better rather than complaining about it.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-25 14:33:43
ID: 46914
Im curious as to how long the OP has been married to this guy?
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-25 13:35:27
ID: 46913
In response to a confession. The merest hint? Oh please. Being blunt and condescending to someone who is already hurting is just mean. It's tactless, and mean. Nothing like kicking someone when they're down. There are ways of getting that particular point across -and it's a valid point- without being a dick. No one hears the message if the it's being spouted in a condescending, belittling way. And you know what I think you can do better than that. If you really want to be helpful, try saying it in a different way. If you don't want to be helpful, well, then, why are you making the comments other than to belittle someone?
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-25 10:11:44
ID: 46912
In response to a confession. Just shut up. You're really grasping now. The op has said more than once that she's getting her ducks in a row to leave her husband. Is she not allowed to vent in the meantime? She's not in an abusive, desperate situation. She's just planning to leave a marriage that doesn't make her happy. So, go ahead and keep being a sanctimonious jerk, and we'll keep calling you out. Almost sounds like there's some stormy weather brewing...
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-25 07:31:21
ID: 46911
I'm sure when someone is in dire straits and they just can't take anymore they will find way to get out of the situation. People know what they need to do when they need to do it and don't need lectures in the meanwhile.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-25 05:36:09
ID: 46910
In response to a confession. You are so obnoxious and persistent with your nasty opinions. You always go to the "change your circumstances" without thinking that people cannot just leave. Get a clue. Or learn some empathy. People without empathy generally do not do well in society.
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