Here's the thing about shitty relationships and marriages: they aren't simple. Whether it's a spouse, friend, or family member, if you've invested years of your life loving someone, it's really hard to just leave. And so many women rely on their spouse for a roof over their head. Leaving my asshole ex-husband was the hardest thing I've ever done, but I was lucky in that I had a degree, a good job, and no kids. Leaving a spouse is incredibly complicated and I wish anyone here going through a shitty marriage nothing but love and strength. Even the one's who are cheating. I get it.