Me too! Thanks for posting that, I feel like I'm the only one here who has a somewhat unconventional marriage. We tell each other who we find attractive, and why, and there is no jealousy because we know how much we are attracted to each other too. We don't do the entire 'I'll be home by 6pm, dinner is at 6:30' thing. We cook and eat when we are hungry, and if the other one is around, then we eat together. We occasionally go a day or two without seeing each other awake. I'll go directly from work to yoga, and he'll end up late at a rehearsal, and the next thing we know, it is Wednesday! There isn't much to comprise on - if we want to do different things, we do them. We love spending time together, but time apart is enjoyable too. We have been together for over 20 years, and it is the perfect marriage (so far) for both of us. For those who feel they aren't good at being married - can you and your DH agree to change things to make it more like the marriage you want?