Dh and I have been having interesting conversations lately about how money can change the power dynamic in a relationship. He makes a lot of money. I've been a full time student for two years and last year I made $7,000. He's always made a lot lot lot more than me and even when I start my career in September as a surgical nurse he still will, but I will finally be making a high living wage. Like, if say, he did something awful like hit me or called me fat or killed one of my pets, I could leave without a backwards glance without sacrificing my standard of living. I've always felt like he thinks he gets to make the executive decisions and has veto power when it comes to financial decisions. I stand my ground and don't let him second guess me, but I wonder if he'll quit even trying to do that when he knows that I'm more financially involved? I ask him and he says no, he'll always be a micromanager, but hmmm, I wonder.