My DH has bipolar disorder. So does my MIL and my best friend. When I complain about DH sleeping literally all day long and not being "motivated" to do anything around the house, they tell me I need to understand where he's coming from. I get that it's hard. But he's on meds and sometimes you just have to force yourself to do things you don't always want to do. I feel like mental illness is becoming such a common excuse for everything now. According to doctors, I have chronic depression, but I never make excuses for it. If anything I try to live like I don't have it as much as I possibly can. I don't know if that's the right approach or not, but I refuse to wallow in my diagnosis like every other mentally ill person in my life does.