I'm the original OP. DH and I don't usually buy for anniversaries, but he had a medical scare recently. I think that may be why the fancy dinner and jewelry. He used to do the flowers on the way home from work and dinner wherever I picked. I told him if he couldn't plan ahead not to bother. Now I get a card first thing in the morning, and sometimes a cute little gift (I love circus peanuts candy, and I've got those). Let your DH know his behavior isn't acceptable.