Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-14 20:47:59
ID: 59079
In response to a confession. I'm kinda in the same boat, OP. I think if I go with my gut, I should leave. Relationships should be a little work, but not THAT hard and we shouldnt have to force it to work. I've had previous relationships that weren't near as difficult so I know it can be better. We've been married a long time and have 2 kids, that's kind of what keeps me around, for now. But deep down I think I know I don't want to be with this man for the rest of my life.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-14 19:30:06
ID: 59075
I never thought I'd be in this position where I'm wondering if I'm settling, or if I just need to accept that all relationships are difficult and I'm fortunate to have him in my life. And if I should just embrace all the good in him and with us and make it work.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-14 19:14:59
ID: 59073
In response to a confession. As a child of parents who are alcoholic and suffer form anger issues/mental illness, I can tell you what it was/is like for me, and maybe your DS feels similar. Asking for forgiveness means a lot. Letting your child know that the words you speak in anger are not how you feel about him, but are reflections of how you feel about yourself would also mean a lot. Tell him how much it would help you if he would go to therapy with you, but understand that he might not feel ready. And let him know that the best thing he can do for himself is get out of the situation of depending his parents, which means getting a job and being self sufficient as soon as possible. At least, that is what I wish my parents had been able to do for me. I know you are working to a better life, and it is a long, hard road, but I believe you will get there.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-14 18:29:37
ID: 59072
In response to a confession. I have a teen ds so I understand the angst, but I lost some sympathy for you after you told him you hoped he killed himself. Wow. I can't imagine a parent saying that to a child. Sounds like he needs to get away from both of his dysfunctional parents. Sad all around. You need to get away from the exdh and get in some counseling and take care of yourself. Your poor son has no parent to turn to or feel safe around.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-14 17:25:22
ID: 59064
I haven't watched tv, been on FB, or listened to the radio, except for Joel Osteen, in 3 weeks. I also got rid of my news story app that was on my phone. All I need now is a nice condo by the beach or cabin in the woods. :)
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-14 17:23:11
ID: 59068
I just read something elsewhere that got me thinking. Do any of you married ladies still have old love letters or cards from exes? I threw all of mine away when I got married. My husband still has some from a bunch of exes, even though the relationships were not good. I would never ask him to throw them away, but I'd be lying if I said it doesn't hurt a little.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-14 17:22:47
ID: 59070
I just got into it with my 18 year old ds. He got mad because I was going to shut his phone off. He was slamming things around and that's why I was going to shut his phone off.. Then he threw my purse. I threw all his shit outside, thrashed his room and thrashed my kitchen. I've had enough of him not going to school or looking for a job. I'm so tired of living. His dad and I are separated but live together. His dad is also an alcoholic. I told my son that I wish he'd kill himself. I hate myself for the way I am and the things I've said to him. I hate my life. My son won't go to therapy or al-anon with me either. Please pray for us. I feel so hopeless I could just die.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-14 08:10:42
ID: 59067
In response to a confession. I OMG'd your post because you told the OP not to hide behind her husband or god. Religion isn't my thing, but that was cold.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-14 00:20:18
ID: 59057
It took me years to give my heart away to a man I always knew he had to be sober, not cuss and not smoke. He was a good man and still broke my heart. I feel like such a loser. And I miss him. Our time together was good.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-13 23:54:02
ID: 59054
In response to a confession. Except that it's not. It sounds empowering to proclaim that there's always a way, but sometimes, for millions of women, divorce is not a viable option. It's really fucking privileged to think that women can just leave. For many, that's just not reality. Whether it's finances, fear, or a misplaced sense of obligation, their reasons for staying are their own and are valid. And you don't have to understand.
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