He's 26. And I get that before now he didn't have any responsibilities that really couldn't be ignored...but I just don't understand where this lack of understanding that I do came from. We've been together for close to a year and ds has always come first. And once i realized we could get pretty serious, maybe 5 months ago, he comes with ds and I on an activity/outing at least once a week. And then the last time I got sick it's like he suddenly forgot ds exsisted. "Just sleep, I sleep all the time when I'm sick...it helps you get better" yes, I know, but my 4yo doesn't care and my family can't/won't help more than is convenient for them. Ds is already attatched, asks for bf whenever we go to the park... idk. I'd like to fix it but idk how many more times I have to subtly remind him of my child before I just lose it. His department is moving to another location soon, I guess I'll wait until then to decide for sure.