Realization: two years ago, my ex-long-distance-boyfriend and I got back together after a breakup and had video sex for the first time one night, and then again the next morning. I remember in the morning, hearing a man's voice in the background saying, "well, HELLO!" Just realized he must have added a friend to our video chat at that moment, someone that I wasn't able to see, but who could see me...completely. He brushed off the voice as nothing, but he wasn't into the sex that morning, and now I get why. Trying to process this. I know with all my heart that that's what he did. I just hadn't realized he was that much of a scumbag until now. I feel really used.