If anyone can tell me how they successfully set boundaries with their spouse's family. The short story is: I love my husband, we do not have kids together (but both have adult children). His family gatherings are dead energy, half are depressed, his mom is toxic. I want him to go to as many get togethers as he wants. I will go to a lot less. Why is this so hard? Anyone who has done this, I'd love to hear how you did it and processed it yourself so you were at peace.