I said that because I've seen it happen. More than once. Once they get sick they come creeping back into your life.. you're still the next of kin on all the forms, you're still the contact person... all the doctors and social workers and who-ever that winds up dealing with him... they ALL look to you to deal with his issues, find him a place to go, help him with treatments, bla bla bla. Find him another woman was a bit much, yeah. But this does happen. All the time. It happened to a relative of my XDH and I felt so bad for her. That asshole ruined her life six ways from Sunday, even after she divorced him.