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Posted by: anonymous
2020-02-03 15:21:00
ID: 63107
In response to a confession. Just wanted to give a recent example. He was away for work for over a month. While he was away, I bought tons of plastic storage tubs and started reorganizing the basement and throwing things away. I got about half of it done. After he'd been home for a few days, I asked if he liked how the basement looked. He said, "I didn't notice. What you should do is take one area at a time and purge and organize it." THAT'S WHAT I FREAKING DID!!!!!
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-02-03 15:10:14
ID: 63106
In response to a confession. Mine does the same. He makes me feel like I'm 12 years old, when I'm in my 50s. He knows that I left home at 18 to join the military, traveled around the world alone, and was a single parent for 10 years, so I'm more than capable of taking care of myself and I know how to do things. But it's constant instructions from him, even for things as simple as when I'm having difficulty screwing a lid back onto a jar. I can't even talk about work because he'll say, "You should do this," or "You should have done that." WELL DEAR, I DID do this, but I CAN'T do that, because it's against policy. I know my job, not sure how you know it, though. He also tells me which shows I should watch and how to change recipes I've been making for decades. Arrrg!
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-02-03 06:55:05
ID: 62967
I totally get the appeal of female companionship over male companionship. When I'm old and widowed, I can totally imagine myself living with a girlfriend or two. No way would I choose to live with a man again.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-02-03 06:39:37
ID: 62997
Boyfriend has E.D and has the smallest penis out of any man I've ever been with. He knows and talks about how small it is. Even talked about it before we ever had sex. He also doesn't want to finger me or use dildos on me because he said it makes him feel inadequate. He said he'd start fingering me. (Eye roll) He's also not big into kissing. Ugh. I'm sexually frustrated. We only do it when he can get hard. He takes viagra, but sometimes that doesn't work right away. This might be the breaking point in our relationship. He's 53 and I'm 48.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-02-03 06:37:42
ID: 62998
Do you ever feel unhappy? I pray everyday to be grateful and thankful, yet I still feel depressed and unhappy. I believe in God too, but still have these feelings. I'm thinking about getting back on antidepressants again. I swear I have felt like this since I was little. I hate it.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-02-03 06:36:52
ID: 63003
You know what bugs me? My husband telling me what to do. Well, I should say 'making suggestions'... I hate it. It's non-stop. "You should watch this show I'm watching because [reasons]." "You should wear your snow boots today." "You should stir that food with a wooden spoon." "You should use the wok for that." "You should put cumin in that, not cilantro." "You should leave your heat up at work tonight, it's gonna be cold." (My boss wants it turned down when I leave.) It's dumb stuff, but it's never-ending. And it's exhausting. At least he's migrated to "You should.." because it used to be "You need to.." and that was worse. That made me super stabby. He's lucky to be alive at this juncture, if I'm honest.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-02-03 06:30:08
ID: 63043
In response to a confession. I would have gone about it differently by doing it much sooner.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-02-03 06:29:19
ID: 63042
(cont) and he says he's depressed so he just sits around all day. OK,I have anxiety and depression and there are times when I just want to lay in bed, but I can't because I have kids to take care of and provide for. I don't get that luxury. I want to keep my family together but not at this cost. Things aren't changing and I have to rethink shit.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-02-03 06:24:48
ID: 63041
Finally snapped at DH. After running around with the kids all day, potty training them, working from home and cleaning up, I got sick of it. He gets home from school and plops down all day playing video games like he's in his 20s.I got mad because DS fought me about putting on his underwear and told him to go into time-out. DH wants to speak to me in his patronizing adult tone about DS CHOOSING to put on his underwear. I snapped and told him I was sick of his reactive behavior, he heard me struggling with our son,asking for his help repeatedly because he has his headphones on and he can either step up or step TF out. He says we are a team, I said "Oh.like in school where one person does all the work and the other takes credit?" He's on THIN ICE because ever since he's returned to college,he thinks its slacker student life. No, we got 2 kids (cont)
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-02-03 06:21:23
ID: 63073
In response to a confession. He might know it's not normal. He probably knows, deep down, he has a problem. But addiction is weird. Until he feels he's hit rock bottom, he's going to keep drinking. You should look up resources for spouses of alcoholics. There are steps you can take for yourself to learn about codependency and whatnot. If you want things to change, this thing needs to come to a head.
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