I have a boyfriend and we're in our late 40's. We've gone down the marriage route before (me 12 years, him 20). We have no desire to ever marry again. We live seperately but see each other a LOT. It would be easier, financially, to live together but we're both "space" people, we love our respective homes and we both like to spread out and have a lot of stuff. We've been criticized for "living in perpetual adolescence" by a couple of family members. I'd like to know why being married is so much more "mature" than having a relationship like ours. We both work, we're law-abiding, tax-paying citizens, we contribute to our communities, we are monogamous and happy, we do a lot of fun stuff and have a great group of friends, we've raised our kids. Who cares if don't want to live together or get married? After four years you'd think the critics would STFU but no, we still get little jabs.