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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-08 21:34:08
ID: 46483
I am relieved reading the "I'm not good being married" posts. I often think the same thing. I LOVE alone time. I'm self sufficient. I make my own money, have my own savings and retirement. My own friends, interests, hobbies. I love my DH but I don't "need" him and honestly, 50% less together-time sounds just about perfect. I kind of wish we were just dating and living apart. I'm 50 and I've ALWAYS felt this way, no matter who I'm with.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-08 19:15:25
ID: 46482
I'm not good at being married, either. I'm really self-sufficient. I like doing things by myself. DH is nice for companionship sometimes, but I really do prefer my alone time. I guess I'm just not a very good companion and I don't always like being a "team player" and compromise.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-08 08:47:40
ID: 46471
Everyone has a different standard. Just because your standard of clean and my standard of clean are different, it does mean one of is doing a half assed job. We view things differently from those around us. We both probably think our way is the best but its all on how you view it. We could both clean the same room and in some areas my cleaning might be better and in some areas yours might be better. Its life and once you realize everyone is different and can do things differently without being wrong then life gets a little simpler and easier to enjoy.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-08 05:06:34
ID: 46462
No, the OP didn't say that her dh did a half-assed job. She said he didn't do things they way she liked. There's a difference! Dh and I had a lot of arguments when we first lived together, because I criticized the way he folded the laundry. We were both in the military so I couldn't understand why he wouldn't fold it precisely, like we were taught. Eventually he stopped doing laundry. When I realized that it was ME who caused the issue, I apologized. He doesn't always fold things the way I like, but instead of getting aggravated, I remember to be thankful that he does laundry at all, because not all husbands do. Now, if something is folded really crazily, I'll fix it, but when he's not looking, so as to not hurt his feelings. I'd also get mad if he didn't do something, but I realized if I just asked, he'd do it happily and without complaint. Men are different creatures :)
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-08 04:55:54
ID: 46467
We can't be in an exclusive relationship because he has too many expectations and we end of fighting. But when we see each other occasionally as friends, we get along great and I'm happy with that. He feels that it's a fwb situation only and he's not okay with that. He wants all or nothing. I understand, but we've tried that over and over and it just blows up again and again. So I've finally accepted to respect his decision, and leave him alone. It's heartbreaking because we still love each other. But what's good for me is not what's good for him and I need to respect that. It hurts to let go completely and walk away. I'm sad, heartbroken and angry, but there is no compromise that will work for us.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-07 18:44:29
ID: 46454
Greensquirrel, Never did I say he was doing a half ass job but you are always the one reading into things with a negative view and assume the worst with your judgy higher than thou attitude or you have no comprehension skills what so ever. I always see you saying such rude judgmental things to people and you are usually way off of what is being said in the first place. Hopefully one day can find some inner happiness and stop spewing your negative bs on everyone here.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-07 08:15:28
ID: 46443
i couldn't ask for a better husband and i do love him but I think i made a mistake in getting married. it's not him, it's me. i don't think I'm cut out for it. i miss only having to worry and think about myself. i miss being able to do whatever i want without having to consider another person's needs. i often look around my house and imagine how it would be furnished and decorated if it were only me living there. i guess I'm just too selfish. but i chose to marry him and i take my vows seriously so i will work on being the best wife i can be.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-05 20:10:29
ID: 46363
Dh and I are best friends with another couple. My dh and the other lady are alcoholics. I've had to stop myself from hanging out with my girlfriend because I was sick of her drinking. Her and dh admitted they need help. I can't even believe it! They are supposed to be going to their first AA meeting tonight. Me and dh have been married 26 years. The other couple have been married a bit longer. Please pray my dh and best friend get clean and sober. It's been a hard road for both families.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-05 18:08:19
ID: 46360
In response to a confession. Dumb advice...sounds more like a blow off answer.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-05 15:55:37
ID: 46352
In response to a confession. The problem is, the person that told me they loved me, is not my DH.
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