Reading the news this morning about how a 4yo was beaten to death by his stepmother. I finally realized something. Even if DH and I split up, I can’t let another man near my kids even if he seems to be everything good that DH isn’t. When I married DH, I thought he was a wonderful man. But now he has changed into a fucking selfish asshole. People change. So no, I can’t let any man near my kids. And, as much of an asshole DH is, if we divorce then he might get a girlfriend who then beats my kids to death.