Posted by: anonymous
2020-05-17 22:40:42
ID: 64279
In response to a confession. OP here.. Yes I get that is what this site is for and I'm not knocking anybody's situation or marriage, or any confession on here. I'm talking about listening to my CW bitch and moan every day at work. Sorry I can't "scroll past" real life. Try some reading comprehension.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-05-17 21:46:13
ID: 64276
In response to a confession. That's what this site is for, though...complaining here anonymously instead of doing it in real life around people. Don't like it? Don't read it and scroll on. Do you know how many women there are out there who are just waiting for their DHs to die because they hate being married to them so much? Well, it's a lot of them. Sometimes the situation is complex and you can't leave, sometimes there's a codependency issue. Sometimes there are other limiting factors and people can't just leave or take action. So they need a place to vent. Just let them vent and move on with your life.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-05-16 21:06:06
ID: 64268
In response to a confession. I have a coworker that has been badmouthing and threatening to leave her DH for at least ten years. He's not abusive, just lazy and clueless and doesn't help her with anything. I don't care what she does with her life, but day in and day out "this time she means it" and continues to just bitch and moan about him. All. Day. Long. Then when someone calls her out she has a lame excuse. They have no kids and she makes twice as much money as him. They also rent an condo so not even any real estate to deal with. Sick of hearing it all. Shit or get off the pot! I think some people just like to complain.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-05-16 20:59:51
ID: 64267
In response to a confession. True, although some of the posts that cause a shit storm of defensive responses are so stupid and petty.. Like the wearing crocs drama a few years ago. And a few more insignificant ones that I can't recall at the moment.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-05-16 15:23:56
ID: 64261
In response to a confession. She has been called stupid and lazy. She has been told it's her own fault she can't get out. She has been told she's deserving of whatever abuse befalls her in the future. He pointed a gun at her = battered wife. Victim blaming is gross and fucked up, especially when it's presented as "concern" and "advice." Like she hasn't been gaslighted enough, now she's got some random internet asshole telling her she's lazy and it's all her fault and she deserves it because she can't leave yet. If you don't understand what is wrong with that, I suggest you read up on empathy. Or just shut the fuck up when you want to say something mean to someone who's already suffering.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-05-16 13:15:21
ID: 64260
In response to a confession. And then sometimes things happen to throw a wrench into all of that planning. For me, that was COVID. I'm being furloughed from the good job that I just got, the one that would get me back on my feet financially since DH spends all our money and shot our credit. It would take a drive of several days, with a dog and a kid, to get back to my family. All of my friends here have moved to other states. Unless I win the lottery, I'm stuck for I don't know how much longer.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-05-16 13:12:31
ID: 64259
In response to a confession. Omg already! Who is "kicking her when she's down"? Telling her she needs to make a plan and leave her DH? What's the problem? I didn't think he was abusing her-- just a lazy, useless manchild. But now she'd being referred to as a battered wife! Or is there more than one OP? I don't feel like reading pages and pages of previous posts to try to figure it out.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-05-16 08:00:58
ID: 64210
Apologies. He does it again. Apologies. He does it again. You can't leave because you have nowhere to go. This is played out in millions of households across the country and the story is always the same. Apologies. He does it again. Sometime in between all the dramas, it is possible to think through a plan that will make you safe. Move in with a friend, save money that he doesn't know about or decide that you'll live a reduced lifestyle after you've left him (until you can get on your feet). It is always possible to better your circumstance, you just have to plan well and then execute no matter what. Sometimes it requires working really hard to make it happen and there is no prince on a white horse who is going to rescue you.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-05-16 07:36:19
ID: 64214
About three years ago, SD and her family moved halfway across the country. Since they were driving, they asked us to store some of their things for them. DH has been asking them to make arrangements to get their stuff for quite some time. They've decided that now is the time. They're driving all the way here - with their kids! - to get it this weekend. DH says they're only spending one night and driving back the next night, but I see this possibly turning into a couple days' visit. I don't want ANYONE in my house right now, least of all them. It's a long story, but there's been nothing but drama with her and her H for as long as I've known them.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-05-16 07:35:52
ID: 64218
I live in California. I was married for 27 years, been separated since 8/17, and filed for divorce last month. I moved out of the family home 6 months ago. DH doesn't want to pay me any alimony. We have over $10,000 of taxes we owe. I'm wondering if I should agree to not go after alimony and ask him to pay the taxes. The problem is, he wants me to pay half the taxes and he doesn't want to pay me any alimony at all. He makes double what I make. Thoughts?
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