Don't forget the financial stuff- I used to work 55 hours every week to cover the bills because so much money went to EXDH's kids. Child support, plus random extras that his ex demanded more money for and he would just give her hundreds of dollars extra without question. He was not required by the divorce agreement to give her the extra money, and she did not need it. So I was busting my ass to pay for his kids. Now I am single, and work 40 hours a week, have a car with 70,000 miles instead of 144,000 and have my life back.