I don't want to date ANYONE with young kids because I don't want to help take care of kids. I don't hate kids, but I hate everything related to childcare. I don't want to be a 'step' anything, I don't want to do 'family friendly' vacations or activities. I don't want my freedom swallowed up by kids' homework, needing to take them places, sitting at their sports events, birthdays, what have you. So I don't date anyone whose kids are not fully grown. You have to be honest with yourself, if you truly dislike anything that smacks of parenting then don't get serious about anyone who's still in the process of raising children. They HAVE to be all about their kids because that's life, kids are time & money suckers. There's no way around it.