My ex-husband didn't seem to get that I was unhappy. So one day when he snapped at me for no reason, I told him we needed to talk. I told him what I needed and was missing in the marriage. He wouldn't agree to counseling or a separation, but said he'd try harder. He didn't, in fact, he outright told me that my needs (spending time together, him showing/letting me know that he thought of me, helping me when I needed it) were bullshit and he wasn't going to do anything about it. Three months later he snapped at me again. and I just said, "I don't want to be married anymore. I want a divorce." He started crying! I thought we could do it amicably, but I was wrong. I left on a work trip the next day, and by the time I got to my destination he had shut everything off and closed our joint accounts.