Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-07 16:57:26
ID: 58946
In response to a confession. Once her dh became disabled she should have washed her hands of him, especially if she was in the process of doing so anyway. Nobody can say "you're a caregiver now" and force you to do it. OP chose to quit her job and waste her days taking care of him, only to leave him anyway. If she had empathy, then go visit him at rehab, call and see how he is, etc.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-06 21:53:11
ID: 58936
In response to a confession. I freaking TOLD you guys this shit happens!
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-06 01:41:34
ID: 58922
In response to a confession. We split everything household related 50/50, and he usually makes about twice what I do. When it comes to entertainment, we which pay our own way. He will happily spend $$$ going to concerts and eating out for lunch (neither of which I am interested in). I just don't feel comfortable having things that I wouldn't be able to afford on my own. I have always been independent, especially financially, and living within my means involves not relying on any else, not even my spouse. It works really well for us. When he wanted to take a multiyear sabbatical because his work is so stressful, I didn't have to worry about my standard of living or savings changing. Funny enough, because of his time off, I have more saved for retirement now than he does!
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-05 22:45:15
ID: 58921
In response to a confession. My sis and her exdh tried doing this.. It worked for awhile until they both started dating again, and just wanting privacy in general. My sis eventually moved out to a tiny apartment on her own (she works full time but doesn't make a whole lot). It's waaaay smaller than her big house was, but guess what, she's alot happier. And finally severed all ties with the ex.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-05 22:17:48
ID: 58918
At times we’ve made close to the same, but I think I make about 66% of our total, and my job pays for housing and utilities plus moving costs and plane tickets each year. I’d never split bills with a spouse like this!! Omg! A boyfriend, maybe. We have a joint account, discuss big purchases and discuss how much we put in ira etc for retirement in our separate names. I couldn’t *imagine* aging, well, I travel for work so I shouldn’t pay bills and I’ll hold back my money - wow.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-05 22:15:33
ID: 58913
Dh just left for his weekly work trip. This morning he woke up with a cold. So, every ten minutes I've been getting texts from him about how he doesn't feel good. FFS, dude, it's a damn head cold. Get some DayQuil, like I did last week when I was sick and you were on vacation. Don't text me again unless you're dead.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-05 21:11:44
ID: 58884
My husband travels, too, and while I enjoy the house being cleaner when he's gone, I seriously miss him. We video chat with snapchat a lot. We'll pick a TV show and have a snapchat date. Right now, it's the Masked Singer. Just helps make it feel like he isn't two states away.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-05 21:10:17
ID: 58910
In response to a confession. Quitting work to take care of abusive man: He was my husband. He had a stroke while I was preparing to leave him for good. He went to rehab for 30 days, which was all insurance would allow. He couldn't walk, couldn't bathe himself, etc. I was told by rehab people "you're a caregiver now." The counselors there told both of us we had to adjust to the new reality. No working for me because he needed care 24/7. They trained me to put wheelchair in and out of car, give him his meds, etc. I'd promised 'in sickness and in health.' If it hadn't been for me, he'd have gone to a nursing home. I stayed almost 2 yrs. until he could do for himself and then divorced the SOB.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-05 21:02:49
ID: 58901
I have no joy. Tomorrow will be 2 weeks since me and guy broke up, my 18 year old son won't go to school and is depressed, ex and I still live together and I'm stuck at a sucky job. I feel hopeless. I'm praying and looking for new job. I hope I can dig my way outta this.
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Posted by: anonymous
2019-02-05 20:57:31
ID: 58860
Have any of you dated after having your heart broken? My mom thinks I should try I'm scared! Should I? I don't want to sleep with anyone, just date.
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