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Posted by: anonymous
2022-02-07 01:16:15
ID: 68115
In response to a confession. That's sad that you were surprised that your DH picked you over his friend.. Esp one that he's only had a few years.
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Posted by: anonymous
2022-02-04 19:58:54
ID: 68109
DH has made a friend a few years ago that I'm not really fond of. Nothing terrible, they are just a bit annoying, and we have never connected. Friend is having a hard time right now with being alone during Covid, and insisting on more and more of DH's time (which DH is happy to give) while they deal with mental health issues. In the meantime, I've been through an increasingly stressful time for other reasons, and I'm at the point where I have stopped eating and sleeping. Yesterday, the friend said something asshole-ish to me on text, and I told DH I couldn't deal anymore. I said DH needs to make a decision on who comes first, me or the friend. I honestly didn't know which way he would go, but he didn't hesitate to pick me. I'm pleasantly surprised.
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Posted by: anonymous
2022-02-04 05:01:01
ID: 68106
In response to a confession. H once said he didn't understand why women say they're always exhausted with everything they have to do. "Like what?" he asked. So I asked HIM - who cooks for ME every day? (No one) Who does MY laundry for ME? (No one) Who does all the cleaning? (You) Who does the grocery shopping? (You) *light bulb goes off* But then, he called me the other day from his business trip to talk about the bills and asked what I was doing. I said I was cleaning. He goes, "Every time I call you, you're cleaning. I cleaned the house when I left two weeks ago, I can't imagine what there is to do." I asked if he'd dusted, vacuumed, scrubbed the tub, washed out the cat's food & water dishes and litter box, cleaned the shower curtains, dusted the blinds, cleaned the mirrors, washed the walls, scrubbed the kitchen cabinets, cleaned out the microwave, stove & fridge...he said no. So I said, "Then you didn't clean the house. You did, however, leave it tidy." *crickets*
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Posted by: anonymous
2022-02-02 21:31:44
ID: 68104
In response to a confession. " BTW, if all I did was sat on my ass while someone else did literally EVERYTHING, I would be happy too.".... THIS! So. Much. This. This is what men don't understand. Of course YOU are happy. You're sitting on your ass playing online games and NOT cleaning the kitchen and NOT vacuuming the floor and NOT making dinner and when I come home from work and find a cluttered mess and then have to clean the kitchen BEFORE I can start making dinner because you made yourself lunch and didn't clean up after yourself. When I left for work, the kitchen was clean. Because I fucking cleaned it last night. And yes, I have asked for help. Every single time I ask I'm met with sighs and eyerolls general pissiness. You're a grown man, I'm not gonna beg you for help. But just know if this goes on long enough, the feeling of 'my life would be easier and better without you' .. Yeah well I just might make that happen. I don't mind doing everything. For myself. But for you? Not so much.
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Posted by: anonymous
2022-02-01 17:04:22
ID: 68097
Motherfucker you can't even go to the grocery store ... with a list that I MADE... without calling me to whine about how difficult your day is? Should I mention that you're calling me AT WORK? OMG why do I let you live in my house again?
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Posted by: anonymous
2022-01-27 01:25:53
ID: 68084
In response to a confession. I've been looking. The other night I was on the phone with my friend talking about it (I go outside now when I have to talk about things like this) and then came in the house, turned out all the lights and crawled around with a flashlight looking under the tables and chairs and such. My mom said to look for a hidden camera as well, and to check the vents. I just personally replaced the smoke detectors so I know nothing's there. Still looking. But I also thought about what you suggested, making up a story about something wild to see if he takes the bait. I don't think he's put anything on my phone or laptop because they are protected with passwords no one would be able to figure out.
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Posted by: anonymous
2022-01-26 19:29:34
ID: 68083
I'm so frustrated with trying to get decent photos for my online dating profile. Family and friends say they want to help (which is very nice) and so they take a few pictures and think they did a good thing. But they either come out blurry or I have a weird smile or something else. And I hate bothering them to take my picture. Super awkward. I don't know one person doing the online thing so no one can relate. Now I'm looking into hiring a photographer, but their prices are ridiculous. A 10 minute "mini shoot" for $125.00! Do you really think I can get some great photos in 10 minutes? Ugh, I'm going to have to spring for a full session. I'm just afraid I'm not going to like any of those either because I'm not very pretty to begin with. :(
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Posted by: anonymous
2022-01-26 00:23:51
ID: 68080
My husband worked 7 hours today. I worked 9. And I did laundry. And I am making dinner while he's asleep on the couch. This is why I'm filing for divorce. He has no idea and will be shocked because "he didn't know there was a problem" and "didn't know I wasn't happy." Yeah, your complete cluelessness and lack of awareness doesn't help. BTW, if all I did was sat on my ass while someone else did literally EVERYTHING, I would be happy too.
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Posted by: anonymous
2022-01-24 14:02:25
ID: 68077
(cont'd) So the thing is that I'm picky when it comes to cleaning my house and what I eat. He's been 'sorta' cleaning the house (in my view). And he's been grocery shopping, but he buys stuff like pizza rolls and pancake mix and makes it for dinner. I can't eat like that. I will feel like shit. So even though all this really helped me there's room for improvement. My suggestions were to hire a cleaning person just for that one month, and to order meal-kits (like hello fresh or blue apron) with healthy food just for that one month. I thought he would be happy- it's less for him to do. He was NOT happy and he felt insulted that what he was doing wasn't good enough. I tried to tell him how much I appreciated everything, and that he basically found the key to keep my from losing my mind every year but he's just upset. Am I the ass hole?
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Posted by: anonymous
2022-01-24 13:57:24
ID: 68076
Ok I've got an "Am I the asshole?" situation here. My work is ridiculous during the month of January. Like, outrageous workload, nights, weekends, HUGE stress.. And also during that time DH is laid off. His job is seasonal. (This is a new job this year) So he's been trying to help and it's been GREAT. He's done shopping, some cleaning, cooking, just taking care of shit during this time so I don't have to. And it made me realize that what I have really NEEDED this whole time (12 years at this job) is just some help. Just to have some shit taken off my plate. And this year has been really eye opening as far as what actually works to bring my stress level down. So now that the month is almost over, I made a list of things that have really helped and how we could make those things even more helpful. (Cont'd)
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