Posted by: anonymous

2019-02-05 20:33:17

ID: 58915

DH makes substantially more than I do. Like almost 10 times more than I do. I work in education, and even then only work part time. All of our money goes into a joint account that bills are paid out of. All contributions to investment, retirement, and college funds are made from joint funds too. We don't have "your money" or "my money." It's all our money. We discuss any big purchases before we make them. Every single account we have has both of our names on it.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-02-05 19:14:56

ID: 58877

I haven't divorced dh yet, but I know I want to. He's an alcoholic and I've had affairs. Nothing about this long marriage is right, but I'm trying to better myself through God and His word. I want to divorce dh, but won't be able to afford being on my own. Do you think it's ok if we divorce, but still live under the same roof?

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-02-05 18:59:02

ID: 58886

I'm curious to see how couples split their bills. If you share 50% of the expenses, are your incomes pretty much equal? Do you contribute a percentage of your money towards bills that are reflective of your income, if you make less? DH and I are having an argument right now. He's been at his job for a long time. I had a great job that I had to leave when I got custody of ds, so I had to start over, and there was a period where I wasn't working and then only part time (agreed upon between us). Now I'm full-time but he makes 3x as much as I do - he makes 74% of our combined take-home pay, yet I pay just about half of the bills. Then I pay for food, gas and necessities - most of his are paid for by his company. Since he travels a majority of the time for work, he says since he isn't here he shouldn't have to pay more than what he does.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-02-05 18:25:33

ID: 58894

Do any of you know of any couples who are divorced but still living together? That looks like what will have to happen with me and dh. I've been with him my whole adult life. I work, but it wouldn't be enough to be on my own. We own our home, payments are 1500 a month, and sleep in separate rooms right now. We have been sleeping in separate rooms for years. I feel stuck. I have to have faith and trust God!

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-02-05 18:25:02

ID: 58905

I'll always wonder if he left me for another woman. The not knowing really hurts me.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-02-04 19:21:20

ID: 58904

That is 100% the problem my in-laws are having. Though they’re nothing being stubborn in their own ways... fil works part time, mil is resentful he has all this free time and tells him he needs to start “pulling his weight” by getting a second part time job or quitting his “dream job” to work for $15 an hour when she makes $50 an hour. She doesn’t see everything he does around the house as anything more than puttering even though it’s modtly projects she wants him to take on. He also tried to keep his days semiflexible because her youngest daughter is constantly expecting him to help her with her 4 kids. She once told him she was signing up her fiancé for school and that when he started she needed fil to start picking up her kids from school, an hours drive away from where we live. Mil is finally talking to him again though...so things are less awkward at home.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-02-04 16:50:11

ID: 58898

DH: Your dad is lucky to be alive after a massive heart attack Friday. The very first thing you said when the doctor told him to quit smoking was, "I'll do it with you dad." Liar. Complete lie. And I'm an ass hole if I even ASK you about it. You: lighting up. Me: "But you said.." You: I don't want to TALK about it! Conversation OVER. Well I'm done with it. The only reason I still smoke is because of you. You want me to sit with you and watch tv? While you're blowing smoke all around the room? That's made it really hard to totally quit, for me. So I'm done. You can sit by yourself. You want to smoke, even after all this? You'll be the ONLY one doing it. You'll be alone. I'm so sick of people being completely full of shit.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-02-04 01:54:48

ID: 58891

Please resist the urge to stalk his IG. It is better this way.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-02-03 22:13:56

ID: 58880

Just curious.. Why would you quit your job to spend your days taking care of an abusive man??

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-02-03 19:31:17

ID: 58864

Snoring is definitely a divorcable offense. I wish I'd divorced my heavily snoring ex before he had a stroke due to sleep apnea and became disabled. Maybe he'd have gotten help before that happened (not likely but one can hope). And maybe if he hadn't become an invalided handicapped man in a wheelchair, I wouldn't have had to become his full time caregiver and give up the job I loved to nurse him as he continued to abuse me. Due to my experience I'd divorce a snoring spouse if I ever found myself in that hell again.

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