Posted by: anonymous

2021-02-07 23:52:23

ID: 66599

I think people think that I come across as a jerk sometimes. Honestly, I don't mean to but I also really lack self awareness sometimes and I tend to be overly blunt and focus too much on wanting things to be a certain way vs. how I make people feel. I have a really hard time making friends sometimes because of this but at the same time, I've never gotten much out of most friendships. I think I'm just destined to be a crazy cat lady when I'm old and talk to my pets because quite honestly, they are better friends than most of the human variety out there.

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Posted by: anonymous

2021-02-07 00:46:26

ID: 66589

I can't tell if I just hate being married in general or that I hate being married to my DH. When my MIL's abusive asshole father passed away, her mom remarried and said "There is such a huge difference in men". And that stuck with her because she said her stepdad was amazing. My DH has a few good points but his bad ones are starting to outnumber the good and he's starting to do some stupid things that are making me question why I'm still with him. I suppose I'm not perfect either, but ever since he lost his job and won't get a new one because he was overpaid at his last one and can't find a company willing to do that again, he's been a real jackass. I'm getting near the end of my rope.

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Posted by: anonymous

2021-02-04 15:33:33

ID: 66564

If I had a nickel for every time I could tell my husband, "I told you so," I would have enough money to leave him.

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Posted by: anonymous

2021-02-02 07:17:32

ID: 66491

My husband tries so hard with gifts, but he admits that he never knows what to get me. Every year now, we each make a wish list on Amazon or Walmart or whatever. We shop from that. He's happy, I'm happy. Easy peasy.

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Posted by: anonymous

2021-01-30 16:40:11

ID: 66523

The reason places like Amsterdam are so expensive is because there is just limited space. Like physical space. So they can't build more housing. It's supply and demand. If no one wanted to live there, it would be dirt cheap. But people DO want to live there because it's actually pretty great. My point is, your boss didn't leave Amsterdam because it was a shit hole or worse than the US or because the healthcare, free college, and government was horrible. BTW, my family is Eastern European, and some still live in rural Ukraine (Vovche, to be exact). Even they have said they wouldn't want to live in the US. My Canadian friend took a family vacation to Disneyworld (pre-COVID). Her mom begged her not to go because she said it wasn't safe and was afraid they would get shot. That's the view they have of America.

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Posted by: anonymous

2021-01-30 00:49:58

ID: 66515

Well, I would say we have tradeoffs. My old boss lived in Amsterdam for a while and they moved here to the US because they wanted cheap property and land. Over there, that's hard to come by and living in the city was apparently too crowded for them. But they got socialized services and a government provided free nanny for the first 6 months of their baby's lives, free college, basically free healthcare, and lots of other things. It's all about what you value. Like, I probably wouldn't choose to live in rural Ukraine, but I'd consider retiring to Costa Rica or somewhere where the cost of living is dirt cheap and I didn't have to worry about income anymore.

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Posted by: anonymous

2021-01-28 13:50:28

ID: 66497

The US does not rank very high in a lot of categories when compared to other countries. Denmark, Canada, New Zealand, Australia, etc. all rank much higher in just about every category from life expectancy, education, happiness, etc. Just because there are places that are worse, doesn't mean we're better. That's like saying, I may be a alcoholic, but at least I'm not a heroin addict. Yeah, heroin may be worse, but that doesn't mean being an alcoholic is a good thing. America is no longer great. Sorry, it's just not. Yeah, places like the Ivory Coast are much worse, but plenty of places are much better. I don't see Canadians flocking over our border.

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Posted by: anonymous

2021-01-28 09:01:28

ID: 66494

I'm a perfectionist too. It stems from having a narcissistic mom who wanted nothing less than perfection from me. She even found faults with perfection, and I'd get lectures & shamed for it. Her house was always a cluttered mess. But me? Mine was minimal and clean, but she'd come over and rant on me for having something out of place at my house that I pay for. It was always surprise visits, so I barely slept cuz I was trying to make my home perfect so she wouldn't treat me like crap over it. The only thing I lived for was perfection for her approval. Friends took that to mean I thought that I was better than them (in fact I feel less than them) and they too would point out when I left a dish in the sink or something minor. It started my anxiety all over again. Been no contact with mom 5yrs, she'd die if she saw my house now. dog hair everywhere and IDC!

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Posted by: anonymous

2021-01-27 02:25:36

ID: 66078

Doesn't it irritate you how a man you're married too or have been dating and living with for awhile, doesn't know what to get/buy you for Christmas, birthday, etc..... Us women always seem to know what to get/buy them.

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Posted by: anonymous

2021-01-27 01:48:27

ID: 66444

It's so interesting that people believe that other countries have a better life, better laws, and more opportunities and equality than the USA. Clearly they've never lived in those places. In fact a lot of them are depressing beyond belief.

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