The OP with the dh with mental problems often is lazy and doesn't help OP around the house. But once or twice a year, she posts about him doing something abusive (like waving a gun at her, scaring the heck out of her with road rage, telling her he will divorce her if she doesn't get a better paying job, etc). Everyone tells her that is abusive, she says she is leaving once X happens. Then X happens, and she doesn't leave, usually saying everything is fine now. And then it starts all over again. I don't want to exaggerate, but I believe we are coming up on a decade worth of these posts. I really hope she gets out soon. If she doesn't leave now, when things are bad, she will likely stay for another cycle, and he is going to get another chance to really hurt her.