My ex DH cheated on me. In therapy, he made himself out to be the victim. Luckily, the therapist saw through his shit, especially when I told her that he'd given me an incurable sti. He's still with the woman he cheated with, herpes and all, so more power to them, I guess. I'm sure to him, it was all worth it. So, you'll have to excuse me if I have zero sympathy for someone who is putting their spouse at risk over some star crossed lovers bullshit. Your behavior is narcissistic, selfish, and disgusting. Period. Full stop. Sorry if hearing the truth hurts your precious little feelings.