If you date a man with a child, you will never ever be first. I posted a few confessions back that My boyfriend broke up with me the week before last. At first I was devastated,now I feel like I just got out of prison... I will not date a man with children again. I have dated 3 other men with kids besides him, and its not something I want to deal with again. There is no bigger turnoff than watching another woman control your boyfriend,and she will have some control over your life too.