Two years until my youngest kid graduates, and I file for divorce. DH is going to be shocked and devastated even though for the past 20 years I've told him how I'm sick of doing damn near everything. We've had the "You should have asked" discussion 100 times. I'm not going to have it 101 times. I'm just going to keep going through the motions until I can move on. He will beg and say he didn't know, he will do better. Nope. You've had 20 years to do better. And I've told you a million times, including during marriage counselling. Bullshit on the I didn't know thing. Unloading the dishwasher twice a month instead of once a month is not really trying or doing better. Already have it worked out how all the money and the house will be split. And I'm not even going to feel bad. If course, he's going to tell people that I blindsided him. And say things like, "Not unloading the dishwasher doesn't make me a bad person." Just two more years...