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Posted by: anonymous
2018-03-26 20:23:00
ID: 54100
In response to a confession. i'm the OP of this post. my relationship with my husband isn't bad. all relationships require work, time, and energy (this applies to relationships with friends and family as well). i simply do not want to be married anymore. i know it's not the same but the only way i can describe it is like when you've worked a job for a number of years then find out that the position or company is no longer serving you so you wish to move on to something else. your job and boss were great but you've outgrown it. that's how i feel about my marriage. i no longer find it fulfilling and i'm ready to move on to another chapter in my life. i can't do 30+ more years of this. i feel like marriage is holding me back from all the things i want to accomplish in my life. i know this sounds selfish, but it's how i feel.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-03-26 18:51:36
ID: 54092
In response to a confession. I'm guessing we are now talking about a different marriage than the one that said 'married 6 years and i want a divorce for no other reason than i'm tired of being married'. Are you asking my viewpoint on this new marriage? Most of what I would say is the same: "I would continue to stand by my original statement that any relationship that is described this way that isn't a great relationship. Just because it happens more often than it should doesn't mean that is what marriage should be or is. I know of too many healthy, happy marriages to claim that the fault lies with the institution of marriage." And I would add the problem here seems someone is with an abusive asshole - even if they weren't married, this would still be a problem! And I'm glad to hear she is getting out as fast as she can.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-03-26 16:36:08
ID: 54086
How about when one partner refuses to understand he's shafting the other? Like the guy who insists the 2nd wife do all the work for HIS kids? He thinks that's normal and gets mad if she says anything remotely connected to his kids even if it's not critical. His attitude is "shut up and do it or you don't love me or them." He uses this attitude to browbeat her into it and threatens her if she doesn't toe the line. He doesn't support her financially, she supports herself and contributes to family expenses. She'll be dumping all of them soon and he won't have a clue why she's leaving, which is because he wouldn't listen to valid concerns.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-03-26 16:21:07
ID: 54085
In response to a confession. "Women pretty much always get shafted in marriages. We put in so much more work; with the kids, the house, emotionally." I would continue to stand by my original statement that any relationship that is described this way that isn't a great relationship. Just because it happens more often than it should doesn't mean that is what marriage should be or is. I know of too many healthy, happy marriages to claim that the fault lies with the institution of marriage. If one (or both!) people in the relationship feel like they are putting in most of the work - and that isn't the way they want it to be - then the relationship needs help.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-03-26 14:08:40
ID: 54083
This kind of speaks to the girl scout cookie confession. According to my DH, any size box of cereal is a 'single serving' size. Because he will eat the whole damn box. In one sitting. That bowl I use to mix cake batter and bread dough, or to toss a huge salad together in? Yeah, that's a cereal bowl to him. He chooses the bowl to fit the size of the box of cereal. And this, friends and neighbors, is why I don't keep cereal in the house. Pretty much ever. And if I do buy it, I get raisin bran. It's the one kind he doesn't like. Funnily enough, it's the one kind I do like. LOL!
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-03-26 12:13:41
ID: 54069
Am I the only one whose husband mutters to himself while he eats? It's fucking maddening.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-03-25 22:58:15
ID: 54080
In response to a confession. Has been dating him a month. Good friends before that. Nice-looking, fit, plenty of money, wants to get serious. Has 2 adult kids and one of them might be a problem in that he is overbearing and always trying to push everyone in the family around. I think I will tell her she should pursue the relationship. They make a nice couple and have a lot of mutual friends. Too bad the son is a jerk, though.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-03-25 22:43:03
ID: 54079
In response to a confession. My DH is just another being to feed and clean up after. That's about all he contributes to my well-being. So yes, I will be not marrying again. I get more enjoyment out of my pets and they're 100x cleaner than he is.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-03-25 18:31:02
ID: 54045
Women pretty much always get shafted in marriages. We put in so much more work; with the kids, the house, emotionally. It's bullshit, it's exhausting, and I wish I could say it's unusual. It's not. There are hundreds of studies that have been done on the subject. When a woman says she doesn't want to get married again, it doesn't mean she's been in a terrible relationship, necessarily. She's probably just tired.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-03-25 18:30:19
ID: 54072
In response to a confession. Seriously- someone would break up about a half inch? What’s to advise? Your friend hasn’t dated him long? Or what? She’s considering these superficial factors before deciding to date more seriously? Trying not to be too judgy but seems superficial and that the woman would know her preference and not need advice in this case? What has he got going for him besides “standup guy” and likes her so much - cute, funny, talented? Creative, intelligent, thoughtful ...I am biased, I go for needs and woody allenesque guys - you have no idea - they can be wildly talented in the sack; insanely funny - all kinds of wonderful things I value so much more than height and stuff ... ok I’ll shut up.
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