3/3 and he's seen as a straight-up guy, and I ruined their perception of him. No dude, they saw the REAL you, the one you hide from everyone. He was also saying (in front of them) that I don't make enough money. I left a high-paying job when I became a single mother and raised my child on my own for years. What a low blow. And earlier, one guy told me that dh told him I said I didn't want dh hanging out with him on work trips, because they drink too much together. I never even met this guy before, only heard his name in passing, and I NEVER said that. I'm SO sick of his drinking. Thankfully he's away a lot so I don't have to deal with it as much (unless he gets mad at me) but I can't take it anymore. I'm trying for my dream job, which is the first step toward leaving him. I just hope I can hang on.