Op again, responding to the comment. I'm still with him because up until I went out to dinner with my friend he made me happy. I was perfectly ok with spending the one night my mom would definitely babysit with him every weekend, I enjoyed inviting him out on Sunday's to spend time with ds and I. Sure, there were small irritations here and there. But then he gets super mad and suddenly feels neglected the one time I go out to dinner with someone else and ask my mom to babysit because he didn't get the same amount of time with me the following night. It's not like I turned down going out with other people to spend time with him before, I don't have a very active social life... so I didn't realize until then how clingy and controlling he could be, how little he listens to my problems... but even when he made me happy, I knew this wasn't going to be a forever kind of relationship. It's not what I want right now.