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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-27 18:21:18
ID: 46985
In response to a confession. I have been staying out this fight, mostly because I agree somewhat with both sides. The OP could use support and empathy, but I think she also needs honest feedback. But this: " she's repeatedly said THAT SHE'S FUCKING LEAVING HIM" stood out to me. This OP has posted before, and she has said that she is leaving him, and she doesn't. She finds a way to excuse his behavior, and stays with him until she can't stand it again. I guess I could be wrong and it is a different person than the past, but the writing styles are so similar I really believe that this not the first time (nor the first year) that OP says she is leaving. So encouragement, and maybe a kick in the pants, could be in order here.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-27 17:37:03
ID: 46983
In response to a confession. I thought so too, but I don't think a new dishwasher would solve the marriage crisis. She seems pretty hell bent about her husband leaving this earth. It goes beyond being upset about dishes.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-27 17:08:30
ID: 46971
I'm trying to imagine here - would getting a new dishwasher (must be cheaper than all that counseling copays) solve their marriage crisis? Is it like couples that argue about the kids and once super nanny comes and fixes the behaviors all is better? Not to make light...
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-27 16:28:22
ID: 46982
In response to a confession. Agreed..she seems like a candidate for that show 'Snapped '. I get we all have our gripes about our spouses but damn, I would never wish my dh dead for leaving the toilet seat up. And tell him that!
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-27 07:04:07
ID: 46967
In response to a confession. I was going to say just get a new damn dishwasher, but you saying to your DH's face that you hoped he died is pretty fucked up. You need counseling before your marriage does. Like damn OP, that's some serious shit to say to your spouse...because of dishes??! Wow.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-27 01:27:19
ID: 46958
In response to a confession. Confused my ass. The "encouraging" is condescending bullshit. She obviously knows she can do better because she's repeatedly said THAT SHE'S FUCKING LEAVING HIM. Jesus. Reading comprehension. Saying shit like "omg, op, like, I totally don't understand why you don't leave him," when she's said multiple fucking times that she is planning to divorce him, translates into nothing more than someone feeding their own ego by being condescending. Leave her alone.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-26 21:55:44
ID: 46960
I hate that he's still on my mind, and pops up in my dreams. It's been 20 years. And running into his mother, who told me I was the one that got away (he had told her this recently) didn't help. Glad he lives 16 hours away.I'm married so nothing can happen, but if I ever get divorced or widowed I'm for sure looking him up. I need closure either way!
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-26 21:50:38
ID: 46959
I haven't seen anyone belittle the OP on here. When she bitches about him on here, I'm sure she's expecting feedback. And who the hell would encourage someone to stay with an unbalanced, lazy-ass that looks down on her and can't even do basic chores?! Plus ready to quit his job and sleep away the day while she's working and taking care of the household alone. Fuck all that. And if that's mean, oh well.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-26 21:17:35
ID: 46957
In response to a confession. I think it's ok to encourage someone to stand up for themselves. I don't think it's ok to call her names, like prostitute or insinuating that she's lazy or stupid or so desperate to be with a man, any man that she will put up with his bullshit. It's like, you get married, it's wonderful, they're wonderful, you're wonderful and slowly over time things change. For the better or for the worse, but no one lives in a vacuum. If it's for the worse, it probably happened so slowly that it's like, one day, you just say to yourself, wow, this is bullshit and I don't want to deal with this anymore. It's how I got so fat. It happened so slowly that one day I went to put on my biggest fat pants and bam, they were tight. Insidious.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-04-26 20:55:19
ID: 46951
Im confused as to why its not ok to encourage this person to not put up with this shitty husband. She thinks she can't do better. She can. Not sure why that is not considered positive encouragement.
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