I posted a long while ago about how I ran into my exdh's sister, and she told me he was dying. She also said, "He wants you to know that he forgives you." I didn't know what she was talking about, but it wasn't the time or place to ask. Last year I was going through old papers and found our divorce papers. I now understood. He was mentally, verbally, emotionally and financially abusive to me. I asked for a divorce, but he's the one who filed. In his filing,he said that *I* subjected *him* to "extreme mental cruelty." But I just let it go because I was going to be moving cross country and would never see him again. BUT THEN I discovered that he'd closed our bank accounts, so I couldn't move, and a job op has kept me here. I see his sister here and there and hope that maybe one day I can set the record straight. Though I'm not sure she would believe me.