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Posted by: anonymous
2022-02-18 20:52:01
ID: 68160
I have a fine life. I'm healthy, have a loving family and friends, good paying job, cozy house, newish car, lots of hobbies and interests, but I'm damn tired of not having a romantic partner. I was married for many years and loved it. Then several years after divorce I was in a LTR until I realized it wasn't a healthy relationship (not abusive, but some deal breakers). I've been alone for a long time now and I hate it. I'm tired of doing every single thing either with girlfriends or alone. I miss the physical intimacy and other aspects of the relationship that only a partner can provide. I'm putting myself out there, but so far it's crickets.
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Posted by: anonymous
2022-01-27 01:25:53
ID: 68084
In response to a confession. I've been looking. The other night I was on the phone with my friend talking about it (I go outside now when I have to talk about things like this) and then came in the house, turned out all the lights and crawled around with a flashlight looking under the tables and chairs and such. My mom said to look for a hidden camera as well, and to check the vents. I just personally replaced the smoke detectors so I know nothing's there. Still looking. But I also thought about what you suggested, making up a story about something wild to see if he takes the bait. I don't think he's put anything on my phone or laptop because they are protected with passwords no one would be able to figure out.
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Posted by: anonymous
2022-01-24 14:02:25
ID: 68077
(cont'd) So the thing is that I'm picky when it comes to cleaning my house and what I eat. He's been 'sorta' cleaning the house (in my view). And he's been grocery shopping, but he buys stuff like pizza rolls and pancake mix and makes it for dinner. I can't eat like that. I will feel like shit. So even though all this really helped me there's room for improvement. My suggestions were to hire a cleaning person just for that one month, and to order meal-kits (like hello fresh or blue apron) with healthy food just for that one month. I thought he would be happy- it's less for him to do. He was NOT happy and he felt insulted that what he was doing wasn't good enough. I tried to tell him how much I appreciated everything, and that he basically found the key to keep my from losing my mind every year but he's just upset. Am I the ass hole?
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Posted by: anonymous
2021-12-12 16:17:22
ID: 67962
We're both in mediocre marriages, but our spouses aren't bad people. We love our kids. But the chemistry between us is palpable. I think about you all the time. In my mind, I have been with you 100 times. I want to cross that line so, so badly. And I absolutely know you do too. I'm glad we'll be working from home forever, because if we saw each other every day, were physically close to each other every day, we would. But we're also both good people and wouldn't risk our jobs or do that to our families. I was offered a job making way more money. I turned it down and didn't tell anyone. I can't bear the thought of not talking to you, laughing with you, every day, even if it's through a screen. I can't be with you and can't be without you. I don't know how this is going to end.
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Posted by: anonymous
2021-11-18 15:14:30
ID: 67898
In response to a confession. My brother didn't make it. I have seen news articles about several people in a single family dying of Covid at the same time, but I never thought it would happen to us. Of course, I never thought my brother and nephew would have waited 6 months before deciding to get vaccinated. I am both not surprised and horrified that after all this, my father is still refusing to get the jab.
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Posted by: anonymous
2021-11-12 01:30:15
ID: 67881
In response to a confession. Thank you cocopop. We have more sad news. My brother was just taken by ambulance to the ICU. The neighbors were worried, so they came over and found him unresponsive on the couch. Now my remaining nephew is trying to juggle everything while waiting to see if his father lives. I can't believe they have turned into one of those families you read about in the paper. I feel so bad for my nephew. His mom died in a car crash several years ago, so now his dad (and me and DH) are all the family he has left.
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Posted by: anonymous
2021-11-07 00:15:38
ID: 67867
My brother and nephew FINALLY decided to get the Covid vaccine. They made an appointment for last Monday, but had to cancel it because they both came down with Covid days before the appointment. I have been worried about my 60 year old brother who isn't in the best of health, so I have been calling him. He keeps saying "This is rough. We just sleep all the time". My brother just called me today. My 35 year nephew died in his sleep this afternoon. He never even went to the hospital. I'm in shock, and I am sad, but mostly I am angry. This was completely avoidable if they had just gotten the vaccine anytime in past 6 months. Of course I won't say that to my brother, but saying it here helps.
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Posted by: anonymous
2021-10-24 19:48:10
ID: 67830
In response to a confession. I could have written this. I'm going to a Divorce for Women informational seminar next month to see what my options are and how to start the process. The thing that really pisses me off is that my DH is the most helpful person ever when other people are here. He'll clear and wash dishes, clean the kitchen, cook, whatever. He won't do any of that normally. He knows he doesn't pull his weight. He only does it when people are here so he doesn't look like an asshole. He's got everyone fooled into thinking he's a model partner. He's not. And it makes me look like the bad guy if I ever say anything or complain.
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Posted by: anonymous
2021-10-23 15:57:05
ID: 67828
In response to a confession. I'm the OP of the divorce post and a child of divorce myself. I work FT, but there is no way I could afford even the least expensive apartment that is zoned to my kids' school. I am not going to move my kids, both of whom are in high school, from the friends and teams they have literally had their entire life. I understand that staying has it's own issues, but leaving would cause more harm to my kids than staying for a couple of years. Trust me.
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Posted by: anonymous
2021-10-21 20:35:37
ID: 67825
Two years until my youngest kid graduates, and I file for divorce. DH is going to be shocked and devastated even though for the past 20 years I've told him how I'm sick of doing damn near everything. We've had the "You should have asked" discussion 100 times. I'm not going to have it 101 times. I'm just going to keep going through the motions until I can move on. He will beg and say he didn't know, he will do better. Nope. You've had 20 years to do better. And I've told you a million times, including during marriage counselling. Bullshit on the I didn't know thing. Unloading the dishwasher twice a month instead of once a month is not really trying or doing better. Already have it worked out how all the money and the house will be split. And I'm not even going to feel bad. If course, he's going to tell people that I blindsided him. And say things like, "Not unloading the dishwasher doesn't make me a bad person." Just two more years...
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