Posted by: anonymous

2019-03-26 12:36:23

ID: 59623

We used to fight terribly and then make up. This time, we fought, got over it, and im being treated like a friend instead of a wife. No "i love you", no holding hands or sitting together. Just communicating like friends that live together. I wish i knew what was going through his head so i could prepare myself.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-03-24 22:03:40

ID: 59605

Part of why I didn't have kids was because of the mental health issues both DH and I have. We didn't want to pass those issues on to our kids and it makes it harder for us to be fully present as parents. We are considering adoption or fostering, but we don't want our genes passed on. Both of us really just...don't really love having to deal with mental health issues. It doesn't feel fair to burden the next generation with that. I don't know if it makes me selfish or what, but I think way too many people just want to pass their genes on for good or for bad.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-03-24 20:18:17

ID: 59604

I'm tired of people.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-03-24 19:09:19

ID: 59602

When I was young and growing up in an abusive household, I cut to take away the pain. This continued into young adulthood, until I finally went no contact with my family, and saved my sanity. So I get it. But there is a cashier at the local convenience store who wears short sleeves, and has cut scars all up and down her forearms. The last time I was there, there were fresh cuts. Like I said, I completely understand, but I really don't want or need to see that :/

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-03-24 18:30:04

ID: 59599

I get it. My beloved father died suddenly of a brain aneurysm at 46. He was an award-winning artist, but worked with disadvantaged teens/young adults in the Job Corps program by day. Lines out the door and students literally screaming and collapsing at the funeral. My grandmother (his mother) was a bipolar, abusive, mean SOB. So mean that pretty much everyone stopped speaking to her at some point or another - her kids, grandkids, siblings, nieces and nephews. That old bat survived cancer FOUR times (didn't even lose a hair on her head through chemo and radiation!) and ended up dying of frigging food poisoning in her 70s.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-03-24 15:29:01

ID: 59597

My Father: Beloved fourth grade teacher for 35 years, winning many teaching awards. Little league coach. Generally amazing human being. Died suddenly in his early 60s. Funeral attended by over 600 people, which says a lot. My FIL: Miserable alcoholic. Obese, diabetic, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, daily tobacco user. Still going strong in his late 70s. This isn't fair.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-03-23 23:24:05

ID: 59590

Next year, in the spring, I am hiring a lawn cleanup service. This is the first year in house with a big yard. I finally got all the poop picked up and it took like, 3 weekends. Never again. It's worth the money to have someone else do it.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-03-23 23:16:32

ID: 59587

I wanted to elope for the same reasons...I don't have many friends and the ones I do have live pretty far away and I didn't want them to have to buy dresses and stuff to be bridesmaids. The one friend I did have as my bridesmaid decided to drop out of my wedding two weeks before the big day and now I'm not friends with her. She wonders why I never talked to her again after that. And that's part of why I don't rely on anyone and have trust issues. My sister and my cousins were in my bridal party and it was a really small wedding. I still would have eloped if I had my choice though.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-03-22 22:20:04

ID: 59582

A lot of men are like that. My ex was angry one time because his car had broken down on a Friday. He said "don't tell your father because I can't stand him!" I didint say anything for a few seconds then I asked him what my father has to do with the car breaking down, and why is he bringing my father up? He said " Your mom is ok, I just can't stand your father, he is an asshole, I am being honest!" Now I was furious. I said " Since we are being honest about each others' families, please do not think I enjoy every minute that your sons are here. They are a couple of spoiled little wimps. I enjoy the weekend a lot more when they are not here." My Dad lived nearby and noticed the car was missing, so he loaned him his car. For a week while a part for his car was ordered. We ended up splitting up over him lying to me about his financial situation. He still drives that car.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-03-22 19:58:05

ID: 59581

I'm being serious: what is it called when your spouse is allowed to say whatever ugly things they want towards you or your family or whoever, but when you retaliate with equal (but truthful) ugly things you get "in trouble"? Because this is where i am and i want to know if there is a solution.

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