I just need to let this out because I feel so much better after venting.
My parents had another daughter. She married a man who has 0 ambition. He's had the same job with the same salary for 15 years. She has no job. They can't afford the house they live in, so they take handouts (cash, cars, vacations, house downpayments in the 5 digits) from both sets of parents. They have been to Asia, Europe, Hawaii (more than once), Disney cruises. All on their in laws' dime.
I married a man who is a typical man- proud- and wants to work for what he has. We
don't get handouts. I'm fucking pissed off. I'm also proud like DH, and don't want handouts. I guess I'm just mad because my kids are living fine lives, just not ones full of freebies and seeing the world on someone else's dime.