Posted by: anonymous

2019-11-30 16:52:13

ID: 62529

I wasn’t with family on Thanksgiving even though they’re in town. I know this space is needed for to process and heal from what happened. But it feels like they’re avoiding me since the fight with older sister (matriarch of family). My other older sis has reached out and that’s been nice. I’ve been feeling really sad still on top of depression. I’m thinking of taking a week off bc I will be emotional when coworkers asked about the holidays. I’ve been pushing myself way too hard lately and I’ve finally reached my breaking point.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-11-30 08:44:42

ID: 62526

Just like regular doctors, some vets can be not as nice and caring as others. There's one vet at our clinic like this. Funny story, my dog can sense when people are not nice. He doesn't bite, but he will lunge at them and back them into a corner. Just so people don't get the crap scared out of them (too much, lol) I always muzzle my dog when we're going to be around strangers or have them over. He's been fine with every vet there, but the day we had this one guy, my dog lunged and got him up against the wall. He was right. This guy was dry, sarcastic and not nice at all. Now I make sure he's not the one we're seeing, because I just wanted to slap him.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-11-30 00:54:31

ID: 62519

I've been feeling like my life is really, really pointless lately. I don't go out of my way to do things for other people the way I used to. I know part of it is that I am quite ill and I don't physically feel well enough to do much. But I like to be a helper and a server and I like doing things for others. Lately all I've been able to do is work and sleep and eat. I don't know what I need to feel better. I am going to start volunteering at the food pantry and the humane society, but I also want to connect with people who see my worth. My family doesn't seem to and it's hard on me.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-11-30 00:39:05

ID: 62516

I think that any time your pet isn't eating, they run all that lab work to rule out kidney/liver issues. Our cat just went in for a frickin' sinus infection and the bill was $500 for the exam, the lab work and the antibiotics. I get it, they have to keep their doors open, but a lot of time they do some unnecessary stuff. I was at least glad the lab work was useful--if he had not gotten better, I would have been pissed.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-11-29 02:11:28

ID: 62514

The main vet called today and left a message asking if our dog was doing better and saying that they understood that yesterday was "stressful." I appreciated that. He is doing much better today. His appetite is improving. The doctor yesterday was so rude and it was upsetting. All the other vets engage with my pets, give them treats, pet them, call them by name. This new vet just walked in and started asking questions, and every time I didn't have an exact answer (I didn't know if my dog was drinking more or less than usual) she would raise her eyebrows and say "Oh-kayyyyy..." If she had taken the time to explain exactly why she recommended an x-ray I would have listened, but by that point I didn't trust her or like her. In the last 24 hours I've been worried that I made a mistake. We've been going to this place for 8 years. When my last dog died, the whole practice wrote us a sympathy card. That's how nice they usually are. If I go back I will make sure I don't get this new vet, ever.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-11-28 20:21:49

ID: 62513

I'm thankful for this site where I can come to share, vent, laugh, cry, and learn new and crazy things about different relationships and lifestyles. Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-11-28 02:57:42

ID: 62511

My dog has had a poor appetite, vomiting, and diarrhea. It's the third day, so I took him to the vet. They took his temperature, which was normal, felt his spine and his abdomen, and then gave me an estimate of $670. $100 for the visit, which I knew up front, $150 for fluids and meds (for nausea and diarrhea )and then- get this- a full blood workup and x-rays. When I told them I didn't want the blood work and X-rays the vet said, "We're just trying to help your dog get better. This is normal." I said let me get this straight- the normal temp ruled out a bacterial infection or virus. You palpated his spine and abdomen, found no masses, and he's not in pain. I told you that he hasn't eaten anything poisonous. Why exactly would he need x-rays or a full blood work up??? I paid them $250 and left. We've been going there for years, but this was a new vet in their practice. They've always been a little pricey, but they've given our pets good care. Am I crazy?

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-11-27 18:36:48

ID: 62510

I read a meme this morning that said, "I'm not holding a grudge. I'm holding a boundary." I really needed to hear that today. Our parents are gone. My DH has limited contact with his siblings, who live across the country, and I have no contact with my siblings. It is awkward this time of year, when holiday plans come up in conversation with well-meaning acquaintances. My plans are no drunken interrogations from my brother, no weeping at the table from my younger sister, no fake spiritual BS from my older sister, no muttering under my breath while doing all the work. Also no conspiracy theories from my brother in law, no smarmy "I'm praying for you" from his wife, no guilt trips from my sister in law. No narcissism ! No walking on eggshells! No regrets!

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-11-27 17:11:40

ID: 62509

I got an electric car under that program. No, there was no committee set up to check if I needed the financial help. Would that have been better? To spend tons of money to set up red tape to make sure someone was under a certain financial threshold in order to get the rebate? That the rich would have just found a way to get around anyway, like they do taxes? I think it is ok that regular people were able to afford cars (that are hopefully better for the environment), even if it meant some rich people accidentally benefited as well.

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Posted by: anonymous

2019-11-27 17:06:06

ID: 62508

Amen! When my mom was in the hospital, one of the nurses overheard her tell me "I never liked to you anyway - [brother] has always been my favorite". The nurse took me aside to tell me that mom was sick, and she didn't mean what she said. I told the nurse my mom has been saying that and a while lot worse my entire life, just never with in earshot of someone non-family. But she was always super sweet to her friends and neighbors, so everyone thought I was the ungrateful daughter because I wouldn't put up with her abuse. Even now, with mom having been gone for years, people say "she was your mom - even though you have rough spots in your relationship, you must miss her." Nope, I really don't miss her, or the invisible abuse that was always there.

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