Fair question. Just trust me when I say that she is the same as her mom. She was a full-grown and married adult when she INFORMED my parents that her mother would be moving in with them. She just took it for granted that my parents would be there once again. She could have taken her mother in, but she didn't. She has the same spendthrift habits her mother had. Always overspending and then crying poor. She always came to my parents with her hand out, never offering anything in return. Any relationship with her would just be a repeat of her mother's relationship with my mom, and I'm not doing that. The fact is that even though we grew up together, I haven't seen her in 13 years and I don't miss her. When I look back, I remember how many thoughtlessly cruel things she said over the years, and how many times I let it pass. I feel bad that she became a homeless drug addict, but I don't owe her anything. She's not my family.