We are 23 and 25, and have been married for 5 yrs with 1 child. I suppose its been long enough for my h to start comparing me to his friend's girlfriends.... But it still hurts. When he says "of course she's not as pretty as you, your boobs are better(lie, my boobs are saggy as hell from ds), your butt is better "(lie, my butt sags in defiance of my gym visits), your waist.... Well, he stops at waist and says "just remember, she's 18 and 115 pounds!" thanks honey, for that reminder that I'm 23, 5'8" and 145 pounds. Yeah, I do weigh 20 pounds more than I did when we were dating, but I was also anorexic and had never given birth. As much as I "value" your opinion, unless I can get back down there in a healthy way, I've no intention of being that unhealthy again. And no dear, that's not an excuse to be fat. I'm a normal weight for my height.