I think I'm codependent. I was doing some research on the subject and DH found out by going through the history on the computer. He was really upset because if I'm codependent then that implies that there might be something wrong with him. I don't know what to do. There is something wrong with him. He won't get a job. He uses me, I support him financially and he will not get a job. Even when he did have a job, he refused to contribute toward bills. It's so complicated, I don't even know what to do or where to start. I have to try to fix this on my own, in secret. So he doesn't get upset. Yep, go ahead and tell me how stupid I am for letting this happen. That will be really helpful. Like I haven't been reading myself that same riot act for years. I need to understand codependency.