The real reason why my husband and I ran off to Hawaii to get married wasn't just because of the price of holding a wedding at home with everyone there.It's just that my family tends to want to be th center of attention to EVERYTHING. Every graduation is compared to theirs, every wedding as well. It is just easier to have something away from everyone and not have to deal with narcissistic behavior. I had a wonderful day that was centered on just my husband and I. I didn't want to feel guilty for having attention placed on me and having to deal with family drama and all of the old rehashing of crap. Its not their occasion, for once it was about my husband and I. I know people will call me selfish for not having everyone there. I know that but then again feeling forced to deal with our families drama is just as selfish,especially in light of the fact that we would have to pay to facilitate everyone's selfishness.