Here is why I'm a loner: Every time I let people in my life, family or making friends, the weight of all of their problems lie on my shoulders. Everyone always comes to me to solve their crap or to help them. I always end up doing it...but then the one time I don't help, they stop talking to me. Which baffles me because any time I need something, even if it's just someone to talk to...I'm always ignored. I have people in my life right now who I am fully responsible for, adults. My ex (kids father) cuz he is stationed overseas & have to deal with all his stuff, and one of my parents who moved in with me and refuses to do ANYTHING, even for themself. For instance, today, said parent pulls out a jar of peanut butter and there are ants on it. I don't use or buy peanutbutter, my parent does. Parent comes to tell me so that I will clean out the ants in the pantry. Uhm...are you dead? no? CLEAN IT YOURSELF! About 5 times a day parent comes up with a new 'crisis' for me to deal with.