My grandma is my bff. She's 98. I went to visit her and my (awful, narcissistic) mom was like, "She's in a mood, I don't know what her problem is." Turned out, my mom was pressuring her into going to my grandpa's grave. What my mom doesn't know, is that my grandpa was a huge asshole to my grandma, cheated on her for over 30 years, and fathered a child with the other woman. My grandma was "in a mood" because she's glad he's dead and doesn't want to visit his grave. She regrets not divorcing him. According to her, the only good thing about him was that he left her a lot of money when he died. I'm the only one she's told about her marriage. My mom would have a meltdown if she knew the truth.