Stream Of Consciousness
Posted by: anonymous
2018-10-17 18:12:40
ID: 57281
I'm CF and I honestly do think I have it easier than most parents. I know not ALL CF people have it easier, but I do; I have more freedom and more disposable income than many of my female friends who are moms. Even the moms whose husbands make great money, they feel guilty about spending too much or worry about what happens if their marriage isn't so great. It's harder to travel with kids. I'm much less encumbered. I live simply, I don't need a big backyard for kids and don't have to worry about the school system or making 'mom friends' so my kids have other kids to play with. I don't spend free time parenting, running them to appointments or school activities. No matter how you slice it, even with a job I feel I have it easier and simpler. I also don't have to work full time, I can afford my lifestyle working part time hours that offer benefits. It's great. I see a lot of CF people feeling like they need to justify how busy they are. Um, you don't. Enjoy your life.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-10-17 17:31:36
ID: 57279
In response to a confession. Welcome home.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-10-17 14:35:54
ID: 57277
In response to a confession. I'm CF. My first husband and I argued about him lying, cheating, etc. He was just an asshole. With my second husband, life is pretty darn good. We rarely argue. Sometimes we bicker over petty things, but we communicate well about the big stuff (money, home repairs, family stress, etc), and it eliminates a lot of our conflicts. It's hard to tell how much conflict kids would add to my marriage. Probably a lot, I imagine.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-10-17 13:36:15
ID: 57276
I always wonder what people who don't have kids argue about? Until we had our son I don't think dh and I ever had an actual argument. We had some small problems, but they were easily talked out and layed to rest. Now we argue about money (of course!), division of household labor, sex, kid shit like who's going to take him to point A or B or discipline, etc.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-10-17 06:24:56
ID: 57272
In response to a confession. My guess is that the good outweighs the bad, and a hurricane is a crapshoot. Like, the threat is always there, but *maybe* it won't happen. I'm from the Southern California coast but have been gone a long time, and am gearing up to move back soon. So many people are appalled. Earthquakes! Fires! Mudslides! Traffic! Yeah, I know, but it's my home state and I love it, and it's where my family and closest friends are. I can't wait to be home again.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-10-16 21:47:24
ID: 57263
In response to a confession. Also, while we're on the subject, hearing loss is about as common as poor vision, regardless of age. People just don't check their hearing very often. Most of the time they figure that they can't afford hearing devices anyway, so they don't bother with getting regular audiograms. Its only going to get worse, now that the government has allowed otc hearing devices. Those things are a waste of money and false hope.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-10-16 21:47:08
ID: 57264
Supposed to be National Boss' day/ I HATE my boss and wish someone would take a contract out on her.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-10-16 18:53:23
ID: 57219
In response to a confession. I'm an audiology assistant and insurance companies have a lot to do with the stigma. Very few insurance companies pay for them, so you get hearing "specialists" that sell junky hearing aids for $8000 to unsuspecting people. Most people who need them can't get them, so they're not nearly as prevalent and "normal" as glasses. Even Medicaid will only pay for one, which makes zero sense. We have two ears. Can you imagine only wearing one lens in your glasses? I think once insurance companies get on board with paying for them, people will be more accepting, because more people will have them. Hearing aids are the final frontier of the medical field. And while I'm on a rant (lol), the otc hearing devices are total crap, but the government won't regulate them. Hearing is more than amplification. Ok, I'm done lol.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-10-16 17:35:37
ID: 57250
My parents are way too needy for me to be unencumbered. My siblings get a pass on caring for them because they have kids. Never mind that the "kids" are all over 18. It falls on me because I don't have children. It's normal for families to dump the caregiving on the cf family members.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-10-16 17:12:18
ID: 57197
In response to a confession. OP here. Thanks for your hugs, support, and advice. My dad has been a functioning alcoholic all my life, so I am mostly used to his behavior. But I keep forgetting that means he is going to be inconsistent about his priorities, because as soon as something comes between him and the next drink, is has got to go. I have talked to my lawyer about him before, but he isn't incompetent, just a drunk who makes seemingly poor decisions. That said, he has never made such a bad decision that he has ended up destitute or in jail (despite several times either or both should have happened). So for all I know, this will work out for him too. I just have to remember to keep emotional distance.
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