Stream Of Consciousness
Posted by: anonymous
2018-08-04 22:03:26
ID: 56123
My DH and I both have mental health issues that we absolutely didn't want to pass on to biological kids. I've also struggled with infertility. You would not believe how many people act so cavalier to us about adopting "Oh, if you adopt through the state, it's cheaper!" and "It would be so adorable if you had a little baby from Ukraine or China!". Like, buzz off?? Most of those kids have complex emotional issues that I don't know if I'm ready to deal with myself. I just--don't want kids of my own. I volunteer with kids. I have nieces and nephews. I like kids and want to teach them cool things and such, but I just don't want my own. People definitely do act like you're so selfish if you can't have kids but don't adopt someone else's.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-08-04 21:36:16
ID: 56120
My inlaws are re-doing their basement for me and ds to live in while we get settled in a new state. After talking to mil yesterday I am now concerned that she will buy ds a pet after I told her several times that I don’t want to have a pet before we have our own place. I’ve told her on several different occasions and then had to tell her at least 4 times in that 1 phone call. And I’m also worried that sil’s kids will run amok in the basement. It used to be the “kids” area, and at mil’s house “the grandkids run the house” and ail doesn’t make them clean up after themselves. They also keep buying stuff for ds that i think is tacky/a waste of space. Like a race car bed... and I can’t remember what else, I just remember thinking “i do not want that...” but they’re excited for us to be there and I know they have good intentions. So I’m going to vent my worries here than internalize them.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-08-04 02:18:08
ID: 55906
In response to a confession. Absolutely yes! The worst they can say is no.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-08-04 02:13:10
ID: 56077
In response to a confession. Thanks for saying this. I'm cf and that struck a nerve with me too but I didn't know how to put it into words. I've definitely had people make comments like that before when they couldn't raise their argument.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-08-04 01:50:54
ID: 56082
I think childfree people really do put a lot of thought into not having kids. Because having kids is seen as the 'default' choice in life, you know? It's seen as unusual or 'alternative' so they do think long and hard. And that's why I think a lot of childfree people are pretty content. They thought long and hard about what would really make them happy. So many people just have kids without thinking.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-08-04 01:50:05
ID: 56102
Tired of the whole GoFundMe thing. Every time someone gets sick, hurt, or dies the rest of world is should to fund them. I don't think so,
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-08-03 02:11:50
ID: 56098
We're a small non-profit, about 10 FT staff members, and were so excited to receive free standing desks and $300-400 desk chairs from a local tech company. For months, they were stored in a nearby unoccupied house through our Exec. Director's connection because we thought we would move to another office and didn't want to have to move them twice. Well, well, well... imagine our shock, when we picked up the furniture today, to see the house rundown located next to a halfway house. As we walked inside to start moving to old office, we found a massive amount of rat sh*t and pee stains all over the chairs. But we had to start getting the furniture out per property mgr's request. So, my coworkers and I held our breaths and wheeled them over to our office. Now in our tiny office, we have like 20 chairs that all probably had some kind of rat sh*t on it, in our tiny office. I don't know whether or laugh or cry. I'm saddened and utterly grossed out.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-08-02 17:22:48
ID: 56092
I hate how people immediately tell me I should adopt, why don't you adopt? If I tell them I'm infertile. It's like god forbid you don't have kids in your life. They think it's like Wal-Mart, just go pick yourself up a kid or 2! It's a huge cost and responsibility. One person said oh but the state will give you checks! Good lord people are just mindless when it comes to kids!
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-08-02 05:40:36
ID: 56090
Friend A is visiting after moving away. Mutual friend V has known A since elementary school is being insanely clingy. Every time i have made plans to see A, V finds out and invites herself along. She has seen A every morning since she got here 4 weeks ago... I don’t understand why she can’t let A spend time with anyone else without her. V was supposed to do something else tomorrow and when A mentioned doing something with me she immediately invited herself and then tried taking over the plans. Including picking up A and her dd, who I invited on this little day trip I had originally planned to do with ds alone so the kids could be together.
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Posted by: anonymous
2018-07-31 21:59:07
ID: 56069
Just a reminder, since it is the hottest time of the year: There is no such thing as too much deodorant. I just got back from the grocery store, and apparently there are quite a few people who don't know this.
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