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Posted by: anonymous
2020-06-24 07:06:09
ID: 64730
Just wanted to say to both of you who think you may have a personality disorder, it never means you can't be loved, even if it's avoidant. I have avoidant and borderpolar, and I've been v. happily married for 10 years. You just need an understanding partner and a willingness to work on yourself. TBH, most people are not healthy, because most of our parents, well intentioned or not, had no clue what they were doing. I think if everybody in the world was assessed for mental illness, none of us would be totally healthy. You can do a lot to help yourself with books and support groups even if you can't afford therapy, but get therapy if you can, and research the best type for your illness first. If you need medication take medication and don't let people shame you for that, it's YOUR life. At the same time, medication is not the be all end all and don't expect magic, use it to help yourself. You are NOT fucked for life so please don't think you are, and you deserve love. We all do.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-06-24 01:39:15
ID: 64726
I work full-time at an office, but we have to downsize 2 equivalent FTEs sometime this year. Just not sure who will be let go or when. I saw a posting about a small coffee company in my neighborhood that was looking for help for about 10-20 hrs/wk The pay is low with coffee benefits and work from their garage. I don't even drink or like coffee, but I'm kinda curious to learn how to run a small biz. I had a good conversation with the owner and learned more about his vision, how they gives back to the community. Am I crazy thinking about adding more to my plate now when I could be do other stuff with my limited free time. Would you go for it despite already working ~50 hours a week? I'm conflicted. If you're curious here's their site https://wildernessroasters.com
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-06-24 01:27:41
ID: 64725
I moved my narcissist mom to limited contact recently because I'm slowly learning to set boundaries. So now when I don't answer the phone, she will text me the same message from her phone, my dad's phone, and FB messenger just to see if she can get a response. I can't even contact my dad without worrying it will be her that picks up, or her texting me back pretending to be him. And she's taken to randomly showing up at my house without asking again. Looks like I'm in for another super uncomfortable boundary set! Oh boy. And today it was "such and such's kids visit her every afternoon, and worship at her feet even though she does things wrong." Like, IDGAF.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-06-23 14:52:11
ID: 64719
In response to a confession. Realtor here. The easiest would be to go with the one that's non-contingent. You have no idea what the house they're selling is like. They could have issues come up in their own home inspection that they have to fix and then not have the money to buy your house. I've seen it happen, and seen deals fall apart days away from closing and even the day of. There's another thing we do, but it's tricky, so discuss it with your agent. You can counter the second offer at $3000 ABOVE asking, and offer $3000 towards the buyer's closing costs. Then you end up with what you originally wanted to sell for.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-06-23 03:30:32
ID: 64711
We have received two offers on our house. One is full asking price, contingent on them selling their house. The other is $3,000 below asking with no contingency and they can close in 45 days. Opinions on which is the better deal? TIA
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-06-22 18:23:31
ID: 64706
In response to a confession. This sounds dangerously like "I went on the internet and diagnosed my husband". IDK if you got that official diagnosis but even if you did, you're not really in a position to question someone's diagnosis based off your own research. I'm neither of the previous posters but I do work in the psychiatric field. Both ASD and ADHD share a lot of symptoms, and they are not mutually exclusive either, you can have both. Both conditions can come with personality disorders attached too, along with depression and anxiety, especially for people who missed childhood diagnosis. Either way, I really don't think it's appropriate to question someone's trained medical doctor based off an anonymous confession because of your individual circumstances. It sounds like her psychiatrist is keeping options open and not giving her the label of AVPD before he treats for ADHD either, which is the correct way to do things. He's clearly narrowing the field, I'm sure if he suspected ASD he'd assess her for it.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-06-22 13:55:55
ID: 64701
In response to a confession. I'm glad you are getting some help, but please look into the possibility that it is actually Asperger's. My DH was diagnosed as an adult with ADD and AvPD. But it just didn't seem right to me, so I started doing some research and he fit the description of Asperger's to a T. Adults with Asperger's are very, very often misdiagnosed with ADD or ADHD. There are a lot of online assessments so you can get an idea. I'm not saying you don't have ADHD or AvPD, but just want to put that possibility out there.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-06-22 13:33:53
ID: 64700
Even with the horrid haircut, my ds4 was asked to start modeling for the local talent agency! In my excitement, I made the mistake of letting my mom know and "I hope you don't make him gay with this." Smh. Thanks mom. Just trying to help fund his college. He could maybe have a career if he wants to pursue this. If he doesn't, I won't make him.
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-06-22 07:55:46
ID: 64686
In response to a confession. We have one patient who comes in about every six months, and his BP is always around 170/100. He is always quick to show us his BP log and it's kind of a running joke now. He always says, "Do you want the truth? You can't handle the truth!" And then he gives us his BP log lol. Seriously though, this guy would be put on meds if he wasn't proactive about keeping track of his normal BP. WCS is real!
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Posted by: anonymous
2020-06-22 01:39:10
ID: 64696
In response to a confession. I have white coat syndrome, too. It’s always high when I walk into the exam room. My doc comes in, we discuss everything, and just before I leave he takes it again; it’s always normal (for me) by the time I leave. The injection I got at the stress test is to mimic heavy exercise, and the symptoms come on quickly instead of gradually. As I said, the tech was getting BP readings continuously, so a two-second dangerously high reading has probably happened with other patients, too.
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