I put a colleague in charge of a big project. He keeps thanking me and saying how much he respects my skills. When I copied some higher-ups on the notes from our meeting, he got defensive and said "we" didn't want them interfering. Number one, I think he's full of shit about respecting me. I have no illusions about that. Number two, I wish I'd listened to my instincts. My first impression was that he was a mansplaining asshole, but when I heard how much experience he had, I gave him this. I'm starting to regret it. In the meeting he broke the first rule, which is talk less, listen more. He also is clearly egotistical and controlling. I started to write a snarky reply to his email, explaining why I did what I did, but I didn't send it. I'm not responding to him. Sometimes it's better to ignore.