Stormy, in some cases the DH taking off for the kids isn’t so black & white. My DH is an airline pilot. When they “call in” they get pulled off a trip, usually 3 days. That’s not an 8 hour pto day. That’s like 24 hours of pto because he can’t just show up and take his trip back. So yes, unless I’m completely incapacitated, the low wage I’ll miss out on ($13 per hour in my new field) is far less important that his $85 @24 hours he misses. So me take a day off = $100 or DH miss a trip= $2000. It’s a no brainer.