I got into an argument with a bully at work and someone came to talk to me about how I handled it, saying "I've noticed that you are having problems with a lot of people." I finally just said, "Are you talking to her too? Because she's rude all the time, and everyone knows it." She acknowledged that, yes, several people on the staff are rude, but she still seems to think I'm the problem and that I need to learn to "work around it". I think I've realized that this place is toxic and that I need to leave. I am not the problem. There are other spaces where I am valued and respected, and I don't have interpersonal problems there. In those spaces I get work done with a diverse group of people and I don't have to walk on eggshells. I'll say it- I am popular and well-liked in other spaces. I don't deserve to be treated this way, and I shouldn't have to put up with it. Unfortunately, the window for applying for a transfer this year has passed, so I still have another year in this hell hole.