Married 10+ years, with children, and also happy. The secret? My kids are grown and out of the house. Those child raising years are tough, esp with a husband that's less than stellar. I'd be bored and lonely w/o the hubs. I'd manage, though, don't get me wrong. If anything were to ever happen that ended my marriage there's no way in hell I'd marry again. I'd get another couple dogs to keep my company. At least with them, you KNOW they're not going to pick up after themselves.