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Posted by: anonymous
2017-02-09 14:56:49
ID: 44773
I've noticed something really weird about myself - I was with a great guy, who was slow to show his feelings - so, I intuited the atmosphere and never was to clingy or said "I love you" etc. it was a deep and caring relationship but I sensed from him how I would interact. Then, I started dating this kind of needy, put the cart before the horse guy who said I love you within days or weeks and wanted to run off together - completely unrealistic. I respected his ability to take such risks, honestly, even if I wasn't comfortable doing the same (and didn't feel the same). But with him, I mirrored very different "acceptable" behavior - being more emotionally volatile, waking away and coming back (figuratively) over and over and over ad nauseam. Much drama. Reading this, realizing, I don't like this - it looks as if I am not my own person. I don't feel that way though- I think of myself as adaptable. Is there any positive side of this story, really, though? Or is this pathetic on my part?
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-02-08 19:27:00
ID: 44759
In response to a confession. There is also the flip side. I have seen it many times, where the gf is fun, career driven and has interests, takes care of herself etc. Right up until the wedding. Then she lets it all go, gets fat, cuts her hair and stops having sex because all she wanted was babies.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-02-08 13:55:35
ID: 44757
My DH is a pilot so I totally get the alone time thing. Luckily he likes alone time to decompress.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-02-07 23:09:17
ID: 44751
So my DH told me that a lot of older guys who get divorced do it because they get stressed out about having to be the breadwinner and the stress makes them resent their wife. Then they become more and more verbally and emotionally and possibly physically abusive until the wife ends up really hating him. Then she asks for a divorce and the guy is all of a sudden devastated and mopey and lonely. Sorry, but I don't feel sorry for those guys. There is no excuse for being an asshole to your wife.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-02-07 17:44:41
ID: 44737
Dh is on the road the majority of time for work. This benefits me because I need a lot of quiet/alone time. He's currently in the middle of a 2-month local project, and home at 3 every day. Ugh. Yesterday he decided to work from home to catch up on paperwork. When he was done he said we should take advantage of the warm weather to clean up the trees that snapped from the recent high winds. After 5 hours of work we could barely move. Today I got ds off to school and crawled back into bed for a bit, where dh proceeds to tell me that he's taking a sick day - FML! -and tries to start a conversation. I told him I needed more sleep and a bit of quiet today. I finally got up at 9 and before I even had two sips of coffee, he starts talking about something on FB. EIGHTEEN STRAIGHT MINUTES. And he keeps trying to show me videos from YouTube. I'm telling him I need to go to the office to do paperwork but I'm really going to the library for some fucking quiet.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-02-06 23:05:58
ID: 44726
My DH loves having his ego stroked. The problem is, I suck at that. I just suck at openly complimenting him all the time and telling him how great he is all the time. I have to wonder if it's because he never compliments me or says really nice things to me.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-02-06 21:44:56
ID: 44723
BF came home in a hissy mood. He wasn't taking it out on me. He doesn't talk much about issues, he usually just gets in a bad mood and won't say why. Today he told me why, and I listened. His boss is the owners right hand man. The boss hired his grandson a while back. Grandson does like 1/10th the work my BF does. And if you try to tell this 19yr old he messed something up, he has anger problems and leaves the job site for 30mins-hour. BF tells the boss, boss doesn't care cuz he won't fire the grandson. If anyone else worked like this, they'd be fired. Boss fired his own brother once for not keeping up. Owner would flip his lid and probably fire the boss if he knew he was letting grandson get paid to do nothing. BF won't say anything to owner, coworkers would probably shun him cuz they're all bosses friends.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-02-06 19:18:35
ID: 44718
In response to a confession. I know a couple that actually did reunite after about 20 yrs apart. They were high school sweethearts that lost touch and found each other again on fb. Both were single again and they started talking and now they're a couple again.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-02-06 15:01:01
ID: 44714
The affair I am having is so fucked up and dysfunctional - I should actually be able to end it and focus on my DH - wowzer this guy is cray-cray and does so many things I dislike - what was I thinking??? Good god!
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-02-05 22:07:24
ID: 44708
My DH got so pissed off on Friday and said all sorts of horrific things to me. I guess he said he was frustrated for a long time and let it all build up. Now he's being all nice and apologetic. I wish he would just tell me when he's upset and not hold it in for so long.
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