I get what you're saying, but honestly, I don't do candles either because I have huge anxiety around forgetting about one and burning the house down. And we had a dog, and I don't want another one. I loved my dog, but I don't miss having fur everywhere, having to run home to let her out, the expense, etc. These things affect him too, so I don't think they're toally unreasonable.

While I don't necessarily disagree with you, I choose my battles. And I love my husband, I even loved him when he never saw things through like he said he would. That's probably why I put up with so much crap. Seriously, I can't help but wonder if ALL (or at least most) relationships have one person that puts up with crap because they love their partner. This whole 'not a great partner' thing isn't exclusive to men. I'm sure, also, that there are a host of other reasons people put up with crap. Women especially, within our patriarchal system. Hey, at least we can have our own bank accounts now and own property! *eyeroll*

OP of the 'fear mongering' post. Seriously- can you post links to where you read all this? Because I DID read every article I could find and this is exactly how I understood it. I would really like to read what you've read. I'd love to understand how this would help crack down on companies paying employees as if they were independent contractors. So seriously- I would love to learn how this actually works. I'm 100% dead serious- PLEASE post links to articles. I've googled my ass off and clearly I haven't found what you've found. If you have an account, please drop links in the comments. You don't have to be annon, I really want to know.

He died omg I can’t believe you’re gone B. I regret not trying harder to get out to the show that year. Now I’ll never have the chance to see all of you like that, ever. I regret that and I can’t believe that’s all now, no more. My heart broke so much this morning. A lot of us mourn you B. You were so humble. You have no idea what you meant to so many did you. We love you B.

It bugs the shit out of me when people upload videos of them filming their animals doing stuff that's "funny," when basically they're actually mistreating them. Like when people put rabbits on their back and the rabbit "freezes" it's not cute, the damn thing thinks you're about to rip his insides out. I watched a video of a girl "dancing" with a raccoon. The raccoon was swaying back and forth in a repeated fashion. It's not fucking cute, it's a thing caged animals do when they are stressed and bored (like tigers pacing at the zoo or horses biting their stable door.) There's even fake "rescue videos" where they put the animal in the situation then rescue it. It's so fucking gross that people use the general public's love of animals but also the fact that most people are ignorant about animal behaviour and think something is "cute" when the animal's stressed. And if it's a dog or anything else big enough to hurt you, good luck when it's had enough teasing.

It's hard to see mental illnesses like hoarding or any sort of addictive behavior as something that isn't their fault. The whole problem is apparently caused by decisions that they made, after all. It's almost impossible to see it any other way when you feel personally victimized. I know from experience. I have a really hard time having any patience at all with drug addicts/alcoholics/hoarders because I've personally experienced the frustration of these people refusing to change, even when it's hurting the people they love. Even when it was hurting ME, from childhood through to current. I've washed my hands of several family members. I'm not saying they don't need help or that it's not an illness. It is. I just can't help them and it's not worth my mental well-being to try. I'm over it. Find help elsewhere.

OMG yes! I really miss Truu :( Not that I don't like this page - love it! - we just lost a lot of the OGs.

I'm really getting sick of the friendships where you end up doing all the work. I've always been the one to coordinat Zoom calls and plans to hang out with friends that just show up (always late) and it's really irking me. One friend suggested we catch-up, I gave her my availability and now she wants me to decide on the place and what time. She says she's exhausted. I'm exhausted, too, so I pushed back and said that have no capacity to plan or organize anything with work ending in a week. I would love it for she took charge on these plans for once since I've done that about 99% of the time. Time to set some boundaries.

Our neighbors had a party for their 5yo's Bday this weekend, and DGD4 came for a sleepover the night before. So I'm at the party with her and DS & DIL arrive. I look, and DS and I are both wearing Star Wars t-shirts. We didn't plan it. I love that kid haha. Best kids party I've ever seen, too. Two bounce house things, one of which was a full on water slide, and one had a full ball pit. Potato sack races, tug-o-war, water balloons, a slip & slide (with a little pool at the end and a safety pad at the beginning) a trampoline.... I mean it was awesome. All outdoors, easy to be socially distanced. Best kids party I've ever seen in my life. DGD had so much fun!

It really sucks that I'm still searching for a compatible partner, even though there's a perfectly good man that loves me to death that I don't feel peace about being with. WTF.