I have gained 25 pounds, and I know it bothers DH. It bothers me too. But DH has a drinking problem and has had one for years. I think I passive aggressively hold onto the weight because he won't stop drinking. Like, I'll lose the weight when you lose the Scotch. He also started smoking cigars again, which I hate. The irony is that he works out every day. And he's kind of smug about it. Any time he mentions anything having to do with working out, I shut him down with something like, "I'm not taking fitness advice from someone who smokes cigars and puts back 50 drinks a week." Immature, I know, but I'm just so fed up with how holier than thou he gets because he runs a 5K every now and then.

Can I ask how much you weigh now? I definitely would recommend you try a reverse diet and try to gain a little bit of muscle mass so you can up your intake. I'm up to 1600 calories a day now and my weight jumped up to 107, but my clothes fit the same. Remember that the scale isn't the ultimate goal--if you can weigh 5 lbs more and eat 500 calories a day more food, wouldn't you do that? You won't get obese on 1500 calories a day of food and the key is to build up gradually so your body is used to the increase. Plus I've noticed I have a ton more energy than I did before.

Idiot boyfriend was "playing" and said I had a big butt. I have gained weight in the last couple of months. He knows I have body issues already. I looked better when I met him 6 and a half months ago. I was 12 pounds lighter. My ex did a number on me with making me feel bad about myself. He kept apologizing but I don't want to hear it. I'm hurt and pissed off. I told him I could talk about his body, but I don't! He feels bad that his penis is small. Wonder how he'd feel if I made fun of it! Freaking jerk!!!!!

Hmmmm. I had to reread this post several times. Sounds like this guy is restating previous posts about wives complaining about their husbands or significant others not pulling their weight and just being a lump on the log plus expecting / demanding loving as well. ‘If the DH would just help out, then maybe they would feel better about being more appreciative and intimate. But if they (DH) don’t do anything why bother.’ Almost sounds like he feels he is pulling more weight and just being taken advantage of. Dear wife /kids maybe the lumps on the log.

Thanks, OP here. I do lift arm weighs and do some light sit-ups, and push ups but I don't really burn many calories. All the calorie calculations online give me under 1300 calories. I stay closer to 1200 to account for any miscalculations( I count calories, weigh and measure everything). I would love to maintain on 1500-1600 but I would gain weight without burning any calories.

Still doing my reverse diet. I'm up to 1500 calories a week, 1550 some days. I am actually losing some weight (?) which means I was likely in a deficit before that was too much. My dietitian is having me up my intake a bit more until I start to actually gain and THEN look at reducing it again. So I'll bump it up to 1600 next week and see what happens. I feel a lot better anyway so that's a good thing.

Just FYI...processed foods can be really off with the calories they list. Some companies don't retest the macros very often and they can be off by like 20%. I swear that's why I always do better with my weight when I eat minimally processed foods.

THANK YOU for asking about me. I am doing much better now. I got to see my son, and he agreed to let me in the house to hug my grandbaby. There are only three cases in our county and the stay at home order has been relaxed. I haven't gained any of the weight back that I lost, but I stopped losing any. I had a long talk with my boss and feel better about work now too. I am still not sleeping very well, but things are getting better.

I start jogging outside this week after a month break. Now I wear mask and jog at my old college since I moved back here. Little busy with people exercising and construction workers back. But I found a spacious alley between two buildings enough privacy and a view of the sky. I've started to do bodyweight exercises, yoga and can see my form in a reflective window. Being outside and exercising again has helped with my Depression which started many years before Covid and I'm finding my love for fitness again.

I'm losing weight again. I don't know what I'm gonna do. I can't eat like a normal person. I haven't actually cooked anything in weeks. DH cooks sometimes. It's mostly sandwiches and salads if/when I eat. I'll spend 15 minutes peeling a freaking grapefruit and get every little bit of white off of it and then have no desire to actually eat it. I have no energy to do any yoga. I miss my kids so much I think I might actually die. Like wither up and turn into a husk. When is this gonna be over? I am having serious trouble just doing normal life things without having a breakdown. I can't work. And I need to. Fuck.